This is absolutely not the right thing to do if you are a parent. Humiliating your kid before his or her friends is the worst kind of humiliation and your kid will become emotionally affected and even their self esteem lowered. Don’t use negative words on him or her when he or she is with friends. That is the worst kind of blackmail especially from a person like a parent.
2. You psychologically torture your kid
There are words that should never be spoken to your kids or else they will live all their lives remembering you for all the bad reasons. Psychological torture is the worst kind of torture and the last person that should come from is the parent. Telling your child that they are good for nothing, they are useless and you regret being their parent is the worst kind of torture to your kids. In case you are a parent that doesn’t these things, then know very well that you are a toxic parent to your kid.
3. Demand too much from your kids
As a parent, you are a role model to the kids and you should be the person they look up to for many things. Don’t be that kind of parent that is overly demanding and expecting too much from your kids. Understand that nobody is perfect and what makes you think your kids are perfect? Consider their weaknesses and limitations and don’t ask for more than what the child is able to offer be it in school or any other thing.
4. You always play innocent and make your kids look bad
Even parents make mistake and the best way to let your kids learn is by admitting that you can also be wrong. If you are a parent that never says sorry but always looks for ways to justify your mistakes, then you are a toxic kind of parent. Don’t always play innocent even at the expense of your kids, if you are wrong tell them you are wrong and congratulate them where necessary.
5. You are a dictator to them
There are some parents who go as far as choosing the friends their children should play with. They chose the course they want their kids to do and don’t allow children to make any decisions of their own. If you are a parent that does that, then you are no different from a dictator.
Don’t always cause your children to fear you because they will grow hating you for the rest of their lives. Allow your kids learn to make decisions of their own but give guidance where necessary and in this manner they will learn to be responsible adults.
6. Able to compromise in order to get anything from the children
A parent in the life of a child should be a symbol of virtue and integrity and nothing less than that. Are you a parent that can lie to your children just to get information? That is totally wrong. Can you bribe them so that you get a favour from them? That’s being a bad example. If you are a parent and you are able to compromise even before your kids then you are a toxic parent. Let your children always see you as an embodiment of integrity and that is how they will grow.
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