“Tell me about yourself” is a question that makes most of us freeze like a deer in headlights, and it can be even harder to answer through text. Luckily, it’s not so challenging to put together an interesting answer brimming with personality that will fascinate your lucky matches and ramp up the conversation. In this article, I have compiled all the information you should include to showcase yourself in your answer.
Highlight the most unique things about you. Talk about what makes you the most interesting person on the planet. Chances are you’re not the only person on the app telling your match about themselves. Niche or rare experiences make you stand out from the crowd and make for more memorable conversations. Use fun facts or quick stories to make normal activities seem interesting: “I own every Metallica tour t-shirt” is a lot cooler than “I like concerts.” “I love teaching”.
Be open about your intentions. Make your intentions clear to avoid confusion or hurt feelings. Tell your match what you’re looking to get out of the dating app experience. Are you looking for a long-term relationship? Do you only want casual dates right now? This is the time to make sure you’re both on the same page about what you want. Say something like: “I’m mainly interested in casual dates and meeting people right now, but would be open to something more serious if the chemistry’s right.”
Tell your match about major changes or milestones. Share important facts that would affect a potential relationship with you. If you’re only in town for a few more months because you got a new job and are moving soon, mention that. A match looking for a long-term relationship would feel blindsided later on if you hit it off and then told them you had to leave. Give them the information that you would want to know about them. Try something like: “I’m leaving in a few weeks to go back to school in Accra, so we’d be doing some long distance chatting most of the year.”
Share a slightly personal story. Give the “why” or “how” behind the facts in your profile. Include a sentence or two that explains why you chose your job, or what inspired you to pick up your latest hobby. Subtle personal details make you seem more interesting, and your match is more likely to open up in response. For example, try saying something like, “I’ve always enjoyed helping people and that inspired me to start my career in nursing” instead of an impersonal “I’m a nurse.” Keep your answer light and fun. A few personal details go a long way in making a connection, but too many too soon will have your match wishing they swiped left.
Add emojis to keep your tone playful and flirty. Emojis are a great way to express yourself and keep your answer light. Add a smiley face after things that make you happy, or a facepalm if you’re telling a fun story about a silly mistake you made. There’s an emoji for just about any hobby imaginable to help illustrate your interests. Try using them like this: “I’m a big surfer and love to vacation in places where I can catch new waves “I tripped and fell in front of my celebrity crush and it was the most humiliating moment of my life”
Keep the drama out of your answer. Only mention details that make for upbeat conversation. At this point in the game, your match knows very little about you and they’ll be turned off if your answer is full of personal problems and heavy emotions. Focus on the positives and not on family drama or your latest argument with a friend. This also applies to sending nudes or sexts. Your conversation might progress to those kinds of messages later, but lewd comments or innuendos are best left unsent in the early stages.
Assume the other person gets what you’re saying. Pretend your match finds everything you say 100% relatable. Go in depth, make niche references, and show you’re passionate. Give them a chance to reciprocate your energy. If they know what you’re talking about, great! If they don’t, then you have new opportunities for conversation. This is a great strategy to avoid small talk and get right to deeper and more interesting conversations.
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