‘I Have 38 Children, I’m 37 Years Old’

Nabatanzi (middle) with her children.

Nalongo Muzaala Bana (the twin mother that produces quadruples) is what Mariam Nabatanzi Babirye goes by and she is popular because at 37, she has 38 biological children.

The oldest is 23 years old, while the youngest four months. She was married off at 12 years of age.

Married off

Nabatanzi breaks down when she recalls what she went through upon getting married. In 1993, she was married off to a 40-year-old man.
“I did not know I was being married off. People came home and brought things for my father. When the time came for them to leave, I thought I was escorting my aunt but when I got there, she gave me away to the man.”
Being only a young girl, she found marriage a difficult task in the new family. “My husband was polygamous with many children from his past relationships who I had to take care of because their mothers were scattered all over. He was also violent and would beat me at any opportunity he got even when I suggested an idea that he didn’t like,” she recounts.

Starting a family

Her father-in-law gave them a piece of land to start their family, a family for which she planned to have six children.

In 1994, when she was 13, Nabatanzi gave birth to twins. Two years later, she gave birth to triplets and a year and seven months after that added a set of quadruplets. This, she says, was nothing strange to her because she had seen it before in her lineage.

“My father gave birth to 45 children with different women and these all came in quintuplets, quadruples, twins and triplets,” she says.
Indeed, Dr Charles Kiggundu, a gynaecologist at Mulago Hospital and president of gynaecologists and obstetricians, says it is very possible for Nabatanzi to have taken after her father.

“Her case is genetic predisposition to hyper-ovulate (releasing multiple eggs in one cycle), which significantly increases the chance of having multiples; it is always genetic,” he explains.
By her sixth delivery, Nabatanzi had had 18 children and wanted to stop, so she went to see a doctor at the Namaliili Hospital.

The problem

The doctor told Nabatanzi that she could not be stopped then because she had a high ovary count which would eventually kill her if she stopped.
“Having these unfertilised eggs accumulate poses not only a threat to destroy the reproductive system but can also make the woman lose their lives,” Dr Ahmed Kikomeko from Kawempe General Hospital explains.
“I was advised to keep producing since putting this on hold would mean death. I tried using the inter-uterine device (IUD) but I got sick and vomited a lot, to the point of near death. I went into a coma for a month,” she explains.
At the age of 23 with now 25 children, she went back to hospital to try and stop. “I was checked in at Mulago Hospital and advised to continue producing since the ovary count was still high.”

Hurdles in marriage

Nabatanzi’s 25 years in marriage have been characterised by humiliation and torture. “I have been tortured countless times by my husband; he beats to the pulp when I try to reason with him over any issue, especially when he gets home drunk. He does not provide for basic needs and welfare of the family; the children hardly know who he is since he is an absent father who gives his children names over the phone and not physically,” she says.

Charles Musisi, 23, her eldest son, says their father disappeared and they have grown up only with their mother’s love.

“I can comfortably tell you that our siblings do not know how our father looks like. I last saw him when I was 13 years old and only briefly in the night because he rushed off again,” he says.

Nabatanzi says her husband spends close to a year without coming home and when he does, he just sneaks into the house late in the night and leaves very early in the morning.
“I carry these humiliations because my aunt advised me to always endure in marriage and have my children as the centre of focus. She advised me not to produce children from different men.”

The education challenge

Nabatanzi is optimistic about seeing her children through school, something her father could not do for her. Despite being a Primary Two dropout, she has managed to educate her children.

One of her first born twins has a certificate in nursing and the other in building although they have not found jobs yet.

Two of her other children are in Senior Six, three in Senior Five, four in Primary Seven, and four in Senior One. The rest are between baby class and Primary Six.
“I am hopeful that my children will go to school because they all have big ambitions of being doctors, teachers and lawyers; I want them to realise these dreams, something I was not able to do,” she narrated.

Nabatanzi has to buy food to feed her children and this is her biggest expense.
David Kazimba, who fetches her water, says he gets her 15 jerry cans of water a day. “She is a social person I have known for the last eight years. She is a hard working and caring woman. At times, people mock her because of her many children but she just ignores them,” he says.

To meet her expenses, Nabatanzi administers local herbs for various illnesses – which she says she has done since she was a young girl- and doing casual work such as plaiting hair, decorating at events and styling brides.
“I do not despise any job as long as it brings in some money. Feeling sorry for myself is something I dropped because I know these children are a gift from God that I have to treasure, so I try my level best to fend for them.”

Home care

The older children help with their siblings and the general home administration. “I enjoy taking care of my children myself though. My children are my joy and I pride caring for them. I cook, wash and bathe them with ease. Children grow better under a mother’s love and care,” she says.

Health
Nabatanzi says she delivers her children naturally and she has always felt fine after each delivery until her recent C-section birth after which she started to develop backache after doing some home chores.

“My daughter who studied nursing used to take care of me during pregnancy. Eventually, I learnt how to do this, so I have not had any difficulties or complications with my pregnancies,” she explains.

Expert view

Gynaecologist Dr Charles Kiggundu refers to Nabantanzi’s ability to conceive so many multiples as “genetic predisposition to hyper ovulation”.

He explains,
“It is an increased likelihood of having children in multiples (twins, triplets, quadruplets…) based on a person’s genetic make-up. It results from specific genetic variations that are often inherited from a parent.

In some cases, women ovulate more than one time consecutively, but in other cases they release more than one egg at the same time, leaving room for the fertilisation of released eggs. When that happens, each one develops within its own sac in the womb; hyper-ovulation naturally is hereditary.”

Advice to women

Nabatanzi says a woman is respected by the way she handles her family and having to settle in her marriage despite all the challenges is her pride.
“There are no easy marriages; women should be patient because even our great grandmothers did not have a smooth one. They should be patient as there is always a lot to deal with in marriage and it is the patience that heals time, mine is to take care of my children which I am doing happily,” she says.

Advice to men

“Do not forget your responsibility because marriage is a joint responsibility to raise these children. “I cry deeply in my heart wondering whether I produced these children on my own.”

She further urges men to stop marrying off their children for quick money and gains, as this does not only affect them but also their children.

-Daily Monitor, Uganda

 

 

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