From the time you could understand human speech, you overheard adults describing you as an old soul. Sometimes, this was a compliment, meaning that you were mature for your age, and grasped concepts that should have been years out of reach. But sometimes, it was an explanation for why you were driving the genuine old folks crazy.
“I feel like the Beach Boys ‘I Just Wasn’t Made for These Times’ is an anthem,” says comedian Sue Funke. “It’s like I’ve always been a little more life-wise than everyone due to my older parents and siblings.”
Adults may have found you unsettling, but kids were certain you were a weirdo—and they probably let you know about it. Kids are cliquish, even more than adults. If you often felt a little ahead of your peer group in some ways and a little behind in others, this will sound familiar.
The good news is that feeling like an outsider isn’t necessarily a lifelong affliction. For one thing, by the time you’re an adult, you’re usually more comfortable being who you are.
You can see things from other people’s point of view.