Men, if you want to turn on your wife or partner, leave your wallet in your pocket and try doing this. Be a domestic guy. That’s right, in the words of one of my female colleagues, “Vacuuming and doing dishes are two of the sexiest things a guy can do.”
Being helpful around the house will go a long way in strengthening your loving relationship. This is because your wife or girlfriend will see you as attentive, loving, and committed. Yes, flowers and candlelight dinners have their place, too. Nice dinners and flowers, however, in the midst of you not helping ovBulletinut around the house, is like running the heat and the air conditioning at the same time: they just negate each other. Doing random, and, not-so-random, acts of kindness goes a long way in creating lasting love.
What this means is that if you do laundry and fold it from time to time, then you are really hitting above par. Doing domestic, caring acts around the house releases a chemical in both of you called, oxytocin. Oxytocin is the “love hormone” that also acts as a neurotransmitter. When you demonstrate your caring to your wife or girlfriend, this releases natures, aphrodisiac. Similarly, when you fill your wife’s car with gas without her asking you, this also produces a pulse of oxytocin release.
According to Psychology Today, “Oxytocin is a powerful hormone. When we hug or kiss a loved one, oxytocin levels drive up. It also acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. In fact, the hormone plays a huge role in pair bonding. Prairie voles, one of nature’s most monogamous species, produce oxytocin in spades. This hormone is also greatly stimulated during s*x, birth, chest feeding—the list goes on.”
Being a domestically active man is far more of a turn on than being a guy in denial. Especially if this means not picking up your dirty socks, laying around on the couch watching excessive amounts of sports, and not listening to your lady.
Expecting your lovely lady to be loving with you when you are not helping out around the house will not help your cause. So remember, being domestically attentive to the woman of your life goes a long way in fostering feelings of love. Don’t wait to be asked to clean up!
Do it on your own and do it because it is the right thing to do. And every morning, tell your wife or girlfriend that she looks beautiful and that you love her. Love is a precious commodity. Treasure your woman, treasure yourself, be a helpful partner at home, and treasure your love.