Let’s be honest: almost everybody does it, but almost nobody talks about it.
Masturbation is often a taboo subject, but it’s a normal and healthy part of life. If you’re like most people, you probably masturbate for one simple reason: it feels good.
But did you know that self-pleasure is good for your sexual wellness and overall health?
Why does masturbation matter?
Masturbation is not just a private activity
It’s a way to get to know your own body, what feels good, where you like to be touched, how much pressure you like, and whether you prefer things fast or slow.
Learning how to have orgasms by yourself can make partnered sex more satisfying, because you’ll know exactly what to ask for and how to communicate your needs.
When you’re in tune with your body, it’s easier to have open and honest conversations with partners about sexual pleasure, boundaries, and even topics like STI prevention and contraception.
How often should you masturbate?
To mark International Masturbation Month, The Handy partnered with sexual wellness expert Dr Sham Singh to answer a common question: “How often should I masturbate?”
According to Singh, Masturbation is a common and healthy part of human sexuality.
“How often you masturbate depends on your lifestyle, relationships, and state of mind. For most people, a few sessions of daily masturbation are completely normal and healthy.”
A survey by The Handy found that over two in five people use sex toys at least once a week, with 55% of women more likely than 36% of men to use them regularly.
There’s no “right” number; do what feels best for you!
The benefits of masturbation
Better sleep and less stress
Masturbation brings both psychological and physical benefits.
Physically, it can relieve muscle tension, improve sleep, and even ease premenstrual tension.
Psychologically, it’s a natural stress reliever.
Masturbation causes your brain to release endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin, the same hormones that make you feel happy, relaxed, and connected.
Relief from menstrual pain
Many women find that masturbating during their period helps to relieve cramps.
Orgasms cause uterine contractions followed by relaxation, which can ease discomfort.
Listen to your body; masturbate during your period if it feels good to you
A boost of energy
Some people find that masturbating in the morning gives them energy and puts them in a good mood for the day ahead.
Others prefer to do it at night because it helps them relax and fall asleep.
There’s no perfect time, just find what works for you.
It’s the safest sex
Masturbation is the safest form of sexual activity.
You get to enjoy sexual pleasure and orgasms without worrying about STIs or unintended pregnancy.
It can be fun and creative
Self-pleasure doesn’t have to be boring or a “second-best” option.
Try sex toys, read or listen to erotica, watch yourself in the mirror, or explore new fantasies.
You might discover something new about yourself!
Improved self-esteem and body image
Masturbation can help you appreciate your body and its ability to feel pleasure, which can boost your self-confidence.
It reminds you that you don’t need a partner to experience pleasure; you are enough.
The science behind the feel-good factor
Research shows that masturbation and orgasm trigger the release of “feel-good” hormones and chemicals in your brain, including:
- Dopamine: It boosts happiness and motivation.
- Oxytocin: The “love hormone” promotes bonding and relaxation.
- Serotonin: It improves mood and satisfaction.
- Endorphins: They reduce pain and create a pleasurable “high”.
- Prolactin: It helps regulate stress and emotions.
- Endocannabinoids: They enhance feelings of reward.
- Norepinephrine and adrenaline: They boost energy, regulate stress, and improve focus.
Masturbation is normal, healthy, and a great way to learn about yourself.
During International Masturbation Month, take some time to celebrate your body and your pleasure.
Remember: You deserve to feel good, and self-care is always in season.
