Acknowledge your successes
When you are overthinking, stop and take out your notebook or your favourite note taking app on your phone. Jot down 5 things that have gone right over the past week and your role in them. These dont need to be huge accomplishments. When you look at it on paper or on screen you might be surprised at how these little things add up.
Look at the bigger picture
How will all the issues floating around in your mind affect you 5 or 10 years from now? Will anyone really care that you bought a fruit plate for the potluck instead of baking a pie from scratch? Dont let minor issues turn into significant issues.
Remember the 90-10 rule.
This is a formula a ration for how you should calculate how you value yourself based on 90% self worth, 10% assigned worth. Ninety percent should come from your acceptance and self appreciation, and just 10% from that occassional sliver of external validation we all need. Overthinkers distort the formula even reversing it by acting like 90% of their worth comes from what others think or say.
Assume good intent
Overthinkers read too much into things. Why? They are assuming something bad lies underneath, something like a bad perception someone wishing them ill or an unfavorable outcome. When you catch yourself doing this, switch your assumption to believe what you are reading into was well intended or atleast neutral. Most of the time, it really is so why not act like it?
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