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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m a 37-year-old man and I’ve been married for three years. Before I got married to my wife, she had nothing; not even a job.
I had everything: a house, a car, enough money in my bank account and a stable job. After marriage, I set her up because I wanted her to have something to do for herself.
I rented a huge shop for her, which she used as a supermarket. Filling up things in the supermarket is no joke so you can imagine how much money I put in that business for her.
I did all these and never demanded a penny from her. I still fed, clothed her and gave her money for her upkeep.
Two months ago, I saw some messages and documents on her laptop. It turned out she used the supermarket as collateral to secure a loan and added money to sponsor another man abroad. I dived into it and discovered it’s an old lover of hers.
I confronted the guy and he told me that I should be careful. He said that he was going to make money and return to take his woman from me. All this while, my wife still wasn’t aware I was doing some things like this behind her.
The guy told her after the confrontation and she had the audacity to be angry at me. She was so firm at first because the guy made promises of returning to take her along. He made a lot of promises to her so she thought she was secured even without me.
So, instead of being remorseful and at least apologetic, she rather told me to get a divorce if I wanted because she thought we both needed it.
I recorded everything she said and saved all the chats and messages on a drive. I told her they were my evidence against her and asked her to move out while I work on procuring the divorce documents.
I’m getting a divorce before this year ends. I’ve told my wife and her entire family that I’m working on it. I’ll make the documents available soon.
Suddenly, she’s sorry and wants us to give things another chance. All the elders in her family; mine and her church were there to beg me. Why are they begging on her behalf, knowing what she has done?
Meanwhile, in the meantime, I’ve asked her to go live with her parents because I can’t share the house with her anymore.
She’s getting nothing from me and I’m not taking anything from her either. Am I being fair about the whole situation? I need your advice, please.
FG/AE
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