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Dear GhanaWeb,
My husband and I got married just three weeks ago, and I already feel like I’ve made the biggest mistake of my life.
This thing called marriage is already choking me, and I honestly don’t know what to do with myself.
We’re both in the corporate world. After the wedding, we had only one week off for our honeymoon. It was nice at first, we spent three days in a hotel, came home on the fourth day, and everything felt okay. But since then, it’s been pure stress.
He never told me he doesn’t eat frozen food. That first Monday after work, he called and asked me to rush home and cook something fresh.
I thought it was just a one-time thing. But by Thursday, when I told him to simply heat up some food, he said he doesn’t eat frozen meals.
That means I have to cook fresh meals every single day after work. Imagine coming home exhausted, only to cook, clean, wash up, and do everything else, and finally rest after 11 p.m., only to wake up early again to prepare his breakfast.
The most frustrating part? He says he doesn’t eat outside food, yet he eats lunch out. I cooked for him occasionally before marriage, and he doesn’t know how to cook. So how was he feeding himself before? If not ordering food all the time, then what?
How does that even make sense? I’m the one killing myself here, and for what? I didn’t sign up for this. I wanted a husband who understands that I’m also a corporate worker and would be willing to compromise. Instead, he’s turned me into some kind of maid.
I change the bedsheets every day, cook nonstop, and sometimes even iron his clothes for work. It’s like he doesn’t see me as a partner, just someone to serve him.
I’m tired. I’m drained. I’ve completely fallen out of love. Right now, I’m just going through the motions because I don’t know what else to do.
Honestly, I’m already thinking about divorce. We talked about these things before marriage, and he made promises. But now, he’s doing the exact opposite of everything we discussed. I feel trapped.
If this is what marriage is, I don’t want it. And do you know what he told me when I begged him to be more considerate? He said, “If I start being considerate now, you’ll expect more later, so it’s better you adjust.”
Can you imagine that?
I’m so depressed I feel like I’m losing my mind. How should I handle this? Should I get a divorce?
FG/EB
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