A married Ghanaian woman has anonymously shared her shocking marital struggles on ‘Ohemaa’, an online platform where women seek advice on relationships and marriage. Her confession has sparked heated debates, with some condemning her actions while others offer solutions.
The woman revealed that over a decade ago, she visited a priest to administer a charm on a man she loved. At the time, the man was handsome but irresponsible—living off women, unemployed, and lacking ambition. She wanted to “make him a man,” so she used the charm to secure his love and commitment.
The charm worked perfectly. They married in 2014, and since then, her husband has transformed into an ideal man—hardworking, loyal, and obedient. He obtained a master’s degree, built a stable career, and provided a comfortable life for their family. They now have four children and live in their own home.
“I once visited a priest to help me use charm to get a man. The charm worked, the man in question is my husband as we speak. We got married in 2014 and by grace we have four children (all with some health conditions). It wasn’t my intention to use charm on a man. I was just sincerely in love with this man, but he wasn’t focused in life. I was 29 when I used the charm and we got married the next year, when I was 30.”
Despite their financial stability and her husband’s unwavering devotion, the woman is now bored and exhausted. She complains that her husband never disagrees with her, never cheats, and follows her lead in everything—even in their intimate life.
“Sometimes I wonder if it [the charm] has cleared from his eyes or it is still working. We go to church, we do everything. I must say, he is completely okay. He is responsible and kind to us. He does all I ask him to do. Now I am fed up with him being perfect. Honestly, it is so boring to have a man who is always saying yes to all you tell him. I am fed up with him being perfect.”
She went further to complain that “we don’t argue, he doesn’t cheat and his life is one way. Even with lovemaking, I have to dictate and I don’t like it. I want him to take initiatives. I want us to be like every other couple. For this reason, I have cheated on him a few times, with different men. I am currently at the point where I don’t even want him at all.” She lamented in frustration.
She also bears the burden of making all household decisions, disciplining the children, and managing everything alone. “I want a man who would be a man in his home—I need my man to control me sometimes,” she confessed.
What troubles her most is the health condition of their children—their first three have cerebral palsy, while the fourth has speech difficulties. She wonders if their struggles are a consequence of the charm she used.
“Sometimes, I feel it has something to do with what I did,” she admitted. Though she wants to modify or reverse the charm, she fears losing their comfortable life. The original priest who helped her is no longer available, leaving her unsure of what to do next.
“I want help to just modify things so my husband can help with the burden. Ohemaa, is there anyone with knowledge on how to modify a charm?”
Her story has stirred intense discussions on the platform. Some users harshly criticized her for manipulating a man’s free will, calling it “spiritual wickedness.” Others, however, sympathized with her exhaustion and suggested solutions.
Some advised her to visit a powerful pastor for prayers to break the charm’s effects without destroying her marriage.
A few commenters urged her to accept that her actions have consequences and to focus on caring for her children.
The woman is torn between her dissatisfaction and fear of the unknown. Should she seek spiritual intervention to “modify” the charm’s effects? Should she confess to her husband? Or is this a case of “be careful what you wish for”?
