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Dear GhanaWeb,
My wife and I have been married for over fifteen years now. We have two children, and we were a happy family until I made a mistake of having an affair with another woman.
Last year, my wife discovered my other family, I mistakenly had two kids with another woman behind her.
I kept it hidden to save her from going through pain and disappointment, but she kept going through my phone and spying on me until she saw what she wanted to see.
I have been remorseful, but there’s nothing I can do about it. In fact, there’s no reason for her to be constantly arguing with me over my actions because if she hadn’t discovered for herself, she wouldn’t have found out.
I’ve provided my family with all their needs, even in excess. It’s not like they lack anything, so I don’t see a reason why I can’t have another family if I wanted.
Well, she wants me to sort of cry or probably show that I’m remorseful for what I did by serving her my head on a golden plate.
She keeps saying I’m not even sorry and has been crying all around till now. She’s told all my relatives and hers. She has even taken some to see my baby mama and kids.
I doubt my wife can beat her chest and say, I’ve ever failed to provide for her. What else would make her so jealous and hurt about me having just two kids outside?
She is beginning to bite more than she can chew. Dragging my name in the mud is what I despise the most. She’s even saying things that aren’t true.
Now I feel sorry for even marrying her. I’m a man, I have the means to be with as many women as I want. My wife drives a car of her choice. She has all her money saved because she doesn’t spend on the home, I do. She lacks nothing.
Sincerely speaking, I’m losing it. I don’t want to be the one to call for divorce to make it seem like she discovered my other family and I left her. I’d even want to continue to be married to her, but she’s just doing too much so maybe, she wants a divorce.
Should I call for it so she can go and cry at her parents’ house? Till when will I continue to condone this from her. What should I do?
FG/EB
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