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Dear GhanaWeb,
I am a 29-year-old woman, and for the past five years, I have been battling a strong and uncontrollable sexual desire that is ruining my life.
Before this started, I was financially stable and managing the supermarket I inherited from my late mother.
But ever since this urge took over, my life has been on a steady decline. I’ve spent nearly all my money on men, sometimes even paying them just to sleep with me.
Unlike most women who are pursued and pampered by their boyfriends to agree to sex, I rather find myself constantly chasing men for sex. It’s humiliating.
The urge is overwhelming. It feels physical, an intense itching and discomfort in my private parts that only stops after I’ve had sex.
But the relief is short-lived, lasting only about 30 minutes, and then it starts again. There are days I’ve slept with up to 10 different men just to calm it down.
I can’t be with one man because no one can keep up with this. I’m now known in my area as “cheap” and desperate.
I’ve become a laughingstock, and people, especially the men, only come around to take advantage of me.
I don’t have a boyfriend because no man can manage the extent of this desire. I’ve spent so much not just on these men, but also trying to seek help.
The supermarket I inherited from my mother is almost empty, and all the other sources of income I used to rely on are running low. I’m exhausted mentally, emotionally, and financially.
If I don’t get help soon, I fear I might lose the will to keep going, because this struggle is destroying my life.
I know I’m a beautiful woman with a good heart and strong values. I should be married by now, raising children and living a peaceful, fulfilled life. But instead, I’m moving from place to place, giving myself to any man who is willing, just to ease the pain for a little while.
People no longer take me seriously. They point fingers at me and call me names, convinced I’m just a spoilt or immoral woman, but I know in my heart that what I’m going through isn’t normal.
I’ve prayed on many online platforms, visited countless places, spoken to pastors and spiritual leaders, and even went for therapy.
I followed every instruction the therapist gave, but I’m still the same. Nothing has worked.
What’s wrong with me? I’m depressed and helpless. What should I do for my life to be normal just as any other woman out there?
FG/EB
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