Kenyan Man in US Says His Family Stopped Talking to Him After Stopping Doing This to Them

A Kenyan man serving in the United States military has opened up about the loneliness of life abroad, saying relatives and friends in Kenya stopped keeping in touch once the money he used to send home dried up.

Joe Nduti, who documents his experiences on his Facebook page, shared the feelings in a recent video. He said he faces the dangers that come with military service while feeling forgotten by the people closest to him.

“You think that you have family and friends until you come abroad,” he said, adding that he lives alone and that since he stopped sending money, nobody cares whether he lives or dies.

According to Nduti, months go by without anyone checking on him, yet people reach out quickly when they suspect he has cash to spare.

He said that whenever he calls home, the conversation turns into a subtle probe of his finances, with loved ones hinting at their own money troubles while trying to find out if he can help. “The moment I say no that marks the end of the conversation,” he said.

He believes many people back home assume that living in America automatically means wealth, and that interest fades once that illusion breaks.

He said only one relative still speaks to him, and the contact amounts to about two conversations a year with little depth or honesty. “The moment you stop being useful to them you become nothing,” he said.

His account reflects a pressure that many Kenyans in the diaspora quietly carry, being seen mainly as a source of income instead of as people with struggles of their own. For Nduti, the silence feels heavier because of the risks attached to his work.

Source: https://www.facebook.com/share/1CSYCrAqXX/

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