Bride-to-be left humiliated after boyfriend’s family ‘forgets’ lobola visit

Ask AI 1minA woman has been left heartbroken after her boyfriend and his family failed to arrive for a planned lobola visit, despite her relatives spending money on food and drinks.

A woman has been left heartbroken and embarrassed after her boyfriend and his family failed to show up for a planned lobola visit.

The family had been expected to visit her relatives last weekend. But they never arrived.

The woman turned to relationship agony aunt Auntie Momoza for advice. She said her boyfriend claimed his family had simply forgotten about the arrangement.

“My man and his family stood up my family. They were supposed to come pay lobola last weekend and my guy claims his family forgot, just like that,” she wrote.

The incident left her family humiliated. They had already spent money preparing food and drinks for the visitors.

When nobody arrived, they had to give the refreshments to their neighbours.

But her boyfriend’s response made matters worse.

He told her to ask her family to calm down because it was not the end of the world.

Ous Katli was unimpressed by his behaviour. She said he was taking both the woman and her family for granted.

“He doesn’t take you only for granted but your family too. Move on sisters, you are in that relationship alone,” Katli said.

Linda Siguqa also questioned the man’s commitment. She suggested he might have changed his mind about the relationship.

“It’s clear he has changed his mind, but that was brutal of him to do you like that. Let him be, my sister. You will find someone that loves you and appreciates your time, and will never forget anything promised to you. Sorry,” Siguqa said.

Meanwhile, Akhona Sepheka raised another possibility. She suspected the man might have paid lobola for another woman.

“He went to lobola somewhere else but I just can’t prove it,” Sepheka said.

The woman admitted that she had never felt so embarrassed. She also questioned whether she was deceiving herself about the relationship.

“How does one forget something we discussed almost every day? I have never been so embarrassed,” she wrote.

She ended her plea by asking whether she should reconsider the relationship.

“Am I lying to myself about relationship?” she asked.