“Normalize asking for help as a man”- Lady breaks down after finding her late brother’s payslip

A Nigerian woman has made an emotional appeal urging men to normalize asking for help instead of silently bearing crushing financial burdens.

The lady recently lost her brother and was heartbroken after discovering his monthly payslip while sorting through his belongings. Upon seeing his actual earnings, she was left wondering how he had managed to shoulder his immense personal responsibilities alongside the financial demands of extended family members.

In a tearful video, she revealed that her late brother had two children in university. Despite his limited income, he consistently catered to their school needs while continuing to extend financial assistance to others. She expressed deep regret that family members—unaware of his stretched resources—would sometimes query him about what he did with his money.

‘’Some of you men need to ask for help. Men, please normalize asking for help, speaking up, please normalize it, especially when you have people around that can help you. Please, normalize asking for help. 

I just saw my brother’s payslip today and realised he was dying in silence. He will put up a strong face, still wants to help others. 

Men, please, always ask for help when you need help. Don’t man it up. Don’t man it up. Please, ask for help.

My brother was struggling. He was bottling everything up. He was putting up a masked face. Some people were even judging him ‘’what are you doing with money?’  We did not know he was going through a lot. 

I just saw his payslip and I am broken. How did he survive with this kind of payslip? He has two children in the university, How did he do it? 

Ask for help when you need help. You are a man. You are not God. Please ask for help when you need help. Ask for help when you need help, please.”

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Tell us how much he’s earning and where he’s working and we might understand how he’s surviving. His allowances might be making up for the salary. But you can start helping now that you know!

1 likes 3 dislikes Reply A Whoever Anonymous is must be STUPID. SHE LITERALLY JUST SAID SHE SAW HER PAYSLIP. Please what else do you need?.

0 likes 1 dislikes Reply A He is dead my brother.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A He's dead! If you're given the pay slip and where he works, what are you going to do with it? You such a d*ckhead.

0 likes 1 dislikes Reply R Air head— you missed the point.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A Hmm what can I said!!!

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply K Men they suffer women dey suffer. Woman go ask him man for money, him go give am. But woman get money ooo but pretend not to have.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply P If men ask for help, the same women will still use it against them.. Yen Yen Yen

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A Who’s ready to help ? Who wan hear Man complains? Men can’t say all . Nah una go still mock us if we open up . 💔

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A We will be mocked if we do

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A From this statement , he did but no one believed him, instead of being understood, he's being challenged "ABOUT WHAT HE DID WITH HIS MONEY". The real truth is tragedy has to occur in most cases before a man is believed. FACT!!

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A That's a typical Nigerian man is going through in the hands of capitalist employers

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A Men go through a lot. Maybe what society has falsely placed on them

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply J We will not ask for help because we do not need help if only you will leave us alone. As you continue to squeeze every liquid out of us, we will continue to endure it till we pass out; then your eyes go clear. If we tell you that we don't have, you will abuse and curse us, so we will continue to give out every drop of life in us until there is no more life. We are men, we will remain men; it's better to die on your feet than live on your knees when you are in the midst of heartless greedy beings

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply M Madam, most people will not work where the are presently working if it were only for salary. If you want to blame a particular person do that with your full chest. I know where this may be going

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A We men are afraid of what the society we take us for, some people even your wife will call you all sort of names, I've grew up to understand that as man the mockery is unwavering when the world realize you're broke. You hardly see the world calling a woman 'BROKE WOMAN' the word is always associated to me.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply T Women have no idea how easy life is for them, trust me they don't know. Men go through a lot, and you see those foolish useless simps who can't help fellow men but will be throwing money at women for having big ass, being sexy or just being fools for women. Men, don't give up, as much as you can, cut down a lot of things you can and save as much as you can, stop buying unnecessary things, some of you order foods like fools, you buy clothes of outrageous amount, you want to feel among. Live within your means, a lot of these your so called guys you call friends don't give an F about you, most of them will evaporate when you hit the rock.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A I pray for my brother, even if he is enjoying with his wife and forget me i will pray for him. Even if i marry i will still pray for my brother.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply E He does not necessarily need to ask you for help. He just needed his external family members to back off him.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply E Madam your advice to men is commendable. However, some people who are in a position to help, most times, do not help until the man is dead. In other words, in this part of the world, people tend to offer help when the man is gone already. You can observe how some Nigerians/Africans spend so much to on burial ceremonies – one quarter of which they never used to help when he/she was alive.

0 likes 0 dislikes Reply A Madam this is one out of millions. As a man who do you go to and who will help you. The hardship is real and many women don't even understand or believe when a man complain

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