A file photo of a worried man
I’m a 31-year-old man who is employed and living comfortably but with a little problem. I have no desire to be with a woman. I don’t get the feeling to even have sex with a woman and it’s bothering me.
When I was about 8 years old, my mother and I used to get intimate. She made me use my tongue to lick her private part and by the time I was 10, I started to use my hand and manhood.
This continued until I was about 16 years old. A teacher who noticed I wasn’t psychologically well invited me for a talk. She made me feel loved. I eventually opened up to her and she decided to get my mother arrested.
The issue went on for a while but my mother came back home from prison as a free woman. The woman decided to adopt me.
She was a single mother like my mother was, but my mom had only me and this teacher had two kids, a boy and a girl who were younger than I was. She was married before but her husband is late.
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I stayed with her while I wrote my BECE and attended secondary school. She was caring, though there was a lot of work to do sometimes. But I got to study and a lot changed about me.
When I was 20, and in my final year in secondary school, the teacher also started to make me sleep with her. She said one day that, at least, she didn’t do it while I was young like my mother did. She added that I was of age and she admired what I had in between my legs.
It continued till I left her place to the university and refused to do it after that. She got offended and refused to pay my fees. I struggled but made my way through.
I lost all feelings I had for women, I never made female friends. People even think I’m into men, but that’s not the case at all. I just have this fear that makes me distance myself from people in general.
I have almost everything and even wish to have kids, but a part of me doesn’t want all that either. It’s like I’m scared for myself and even the kids I’ll have.
I’ve suffered abuse, even in university, a woman tried to sleep with me before she helped with my fees so I had to work to pay every penny. What do I do?
FG/EB
