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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m a 30-year-old man and I’m married to a rich lady. When I say rich, I mean she has more money and assets than I do, a more stable job, and a higher income with benefits, which include traveling out for holidays.
I have none of these, but I’m not a house husband either. I still do my work and rely solely on my own income, rather than on hers. She doesn’t ask me either, but I make sure I provide basic needs at home because if I give her money, she doesn’t take it.
We don’t rent or pay utility bills. Our place is a big flat, and most bills are covered by her dad’s estate. But I make sure to pay the house help myself, while her father pays the security through the agency.
I love her, and I didn’t know she was wealthier than I was until we started going out.
She was also disappointed when she found out who I was, but she learned to compromise, adding that as far as I was willing to do more for myself, she’s okay. And she said she loved me because I loved her for her and not what she has.
So, honestly, her father sponsored our luxurious wedding; I couldn’t have afforded that. She also gave me some money to make me cover my own expenses, so I don’t appear below their class.
It’s been two years since the marriage. We don’t argue much, except on the subject of having kids. She always said she wasn’t ready. Sometimes, she would say we should adopt, and at other times, she would say she wanted to finish a course, project, or other things.
Even giving me sex is a problem. I have to beg and stay without it for weeks, and even months sometimes, before she gives me one. And even with that one, she will stress me, asking me to lick her in weird places. Sometimes, she’ll request a massage before I can have access to her body, and once I release, she wants me out of her sight. She doesn’t even wear her ring.
Now, she’s come to tell me she’s pregnant, but it isn’t mine. She doesn’t want me to complain. She said I should understand if I truly love her. She told me whose it was and wants me to be there for her and support her as if the pregnancy were mine.
I’m heartbroken. I don’t feel loved, and I certainly don’t want a marriage where my wife goes to carry another man’s child, but she doesn’t see it as a problem and thinks I’m overreacting.
She keeps crying and saying I’m heartless for refusing to understand that she made a mistake that got her pregnant, and that I’ve refused to support her when she’s emotionally down and needs me the most.
This is my life right now. I am not even happy anymore. Please, I need your audience to guide me on what to do. This is now too much for me to handle.
FG/AE
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