Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m currently dating a woman who is a lawyer. She is 29, employed, owns a car, and lives in a three-bedroom apartment.
I didn’t know all these things at the beginning. I thought she was just an ordinary girl, so I told her several lies about myself to win her heart. I’m currently working, but only as an ordinary administrator in a private school.
However, I told her that I’m a chartered accountant working with Fidelity Bank. I also claimed that I’m building a house around East Legon, and for now, I’m just living somewhere small.
The truth is, I am living somewhere small, but there’s no house I’m building.
When I first saw her pictures, she seemed like a “big girl,” and I didn’t think she would even agree to talk to me, let alone date me. So, I said things just to impress her, things I thought would at least get her attention or even just get me to sleep with her.
But now, everything has changed. I’ve gotten to know her better, and I’m amazed that she agreed to date me, even without knowing the truth about me or my financial status.
That makes me respect her even more, and I truly don’t know how to confess the truth or what will happen when she finds out.
Last week, she drove to the Fidelity Bank branch I told her I worked at, hoping to surprise me. But I told her I was out for a meeting, so she should go back. That’s the kind of pressure my lies have created.
She now speaks about things that are far beyond my level. She asks me for investment advice I know nothing about. What hurts the most is when she begins a sentence with, “Since you’re a banker, I thought I should ask you…”
She has also asked to visit the site where I’m supposedly building my house. I know very soon, the truth will start unfolding on its own, because even the places she wants us to go and have fun, I can’t afford them.
She actually spends a lot, and sometimes, the price of just one item she buys equals my salary for three months.
I want to confess before it’s too late, but how? I earn GH₵1,300 a month, and the place I’m staying isn’t even mine. It’s my brother’s house, and he’s currently outside the country.
I know I shouldn’t have lied, but I just wanted to impress her. The problem now is: I’ve genuinely fallen in love with her, and I don’t want to lose her.
How do I confess to her without her leaving me? What should I do now?
FG/EB
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