File photo of a worried woman
Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m a 25-year-old woman working as a salesperson at a cosmetics shop owned by a woman. It’s a big shop, and I’ve been working there for over two years now. My boss pays me well and treats me kindly, but she is very serious when it comes to work.
My boss is a health worker, and her husband works at a bank. I’ve fallen in love with her husband. It started the first time he came to the shop to pick her up. From that moment, I couldn’t stop thinking about him.
I admired him from a distance until one day, he came to the shop when my madam wasn’t around. I gathered courage and told him he is handsome and that I liked him. I was very shy, but I couldn’t keep the feelings inside anymore.
He laughed and left. A few days later, he came back to the shop, and when we were alone, he asked me to come with him to the washroom. Without saying much, he slept with me there. He simply told me to take off my clothes, and it happened.
Since then, for over a year now, that has been the pattern. He doesn’t have my phone number and barely speaks to me. When he comes and his wife is around, he just says, “How are you?” When I’m alone, he behaves the same way: asks me to come to the washroom, has sex with me, and then leaves.
He has never kissed me or touched me gently. He doesn’t talk to me like someone who cares. I want more. I want him to talk to me, show affection, or even treat me like I matter. But I don’t know how to say this to him because he never creates space for any conversation.
I don’t know if this is happening because I was the first to confess my feelings or because I’m just a salesgirl. I don’t even know if he likes me at all.
It’s been over a year, and it’s always the same thing, in the washroom, same style, no emotions. He doesn’t even remember my name sometimes. I once asked for his number, but he said he cannot give it to me.
I know he is my boss’ husband, but I love him. I’ll do anything for him. I just want him to notice me and not only use me for sex.
Sometimes I feel like he is just using me, and that breaks my heart.
But I can’t stop thinking about him. He is always on my mind, and I’ve promised myself that no matter what happens, I won’t leave this job. I want to stay until he falls in love with me and we have a child together.
Please, what can I do to make him love me and talk to me? He has never taken me anywhere else, it’s always the washroom. He never touches me romantically. He just tells me to turn around, no foreplay, nothing.
But the painful part is that I’m always ready for him because I still feel so strongly for him. Deep down, I know this isn’t what I want for myself.
Please, what should I do?
FG/EB
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