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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m writing this with so much frustration and heartbreak.
I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for two years. Two weeks ago, she left for Canada to pursue her Master’s degree, a great opportunity that took a lot of hard work, sacrifice, and prayers. By God’s grace, she got admitted.
Before she left, everything between us seemed perfectly fine. I sponsored the entire process financially. She only used her own money to buy clothes and personal items she would need for the trip.
I deposited money into her account to cover part of her tuition and also paid for her accommodation. The idea was that, while she was away, the only thing she might need from me would be extra money for feeding.
There was no need for her to worry about tuition or accommodation because I had already taken care of all that. She knows very well that I emptied my accounts and even took out loans just to make this possible.
But after she arrived in Canada, her attitude changed. She became cold and distant.
She always claimed she was busy and didn’t feel like talking. I assumed she was just trying to settle in, so I gave her space.
However, days passed, and we barely talked like we used to. Last night, I called her, hoping we could reconnect, but she snapped. She yelled at me to stop disturbing her life.
When I asked what I had done wrong, she told me to hold on and I would soon find out.
To my shock, she sent me screenshots of my chats with several different women, chats she had secretly taken from my phone. She also sent pictures of the women and even call recordings.
I still don’t know how she managed to collect all that without my knowledge. The truth is, I had slept with over twenty women, and she had somehow found out everything.
Some of these women knew her, but I lied to them, telling them she was my sister. I even spoke badly about her to a few. Some of the women were her friends and former colleagues.
She told me our relationship was over because I was a cheat. Honestly, I’ve changed. I’m no longer the man I used to be, but she refuses to believe that.
I had decided to be serious, to settle down, and build a future with her. But then she dropped the biggest bombshell: she said she had only stayed with me so I would sponsor her trip, her form of revenge for everything I had done.
For two years, she kept everything to herself and acted like everything was fine. She gave me sex whenever I wanted, pretended nothing was wrong, just so I would pay for her education.
She didn’t even give me a chance to explain. She said everything she wanted to say, insulted me, and hung up the call. Is this fair?
Now I’m broke, in debt, and left alone, all because I thought I was investing in the woman I loved, someone I hoped to enjoy the future with.
Am I supposed to start over and repay all those loans alone? Why would she do this to me?
I’m truly heartbroken and devastated. What should I do now?
FG/EB
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