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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m a 23-year old lady dating a 32-year old man. We have dated over a year now. He’s the one taking care of me in the university and my parents too are supportive. I am in level 200; I was in the university already before we met.
My boyfriend likes to talk a lot and complain about everything. He says I’m young and he keeps trying to teach me how to live my life everyday.
He always complains about everything I do. He doesn’t want me to even have any friend. He comes to my house every Saturday only to go through my phone and see who I’m talking to.
If he doesn’t see anything, he would say I’ve deleted them but I’ve not even deleted anything before. If he sees that I’m even texting another female, he would say she would be a bad influence on me.
I am enduring everything but the one that is very worrying to me is that I have to send him my naked pictures every blessed day. It’s a routine!
I have to do it every morning before leaving home and when I return in the afternoon or in the evening. If I fail, he would get angry. No matter where I am, I have to return home. If I don’t do it, it means I am somewhere and this makes him angry.
According to him, he uses my naked pictures to check whether I’m home or not. I have to send it in different styles. Sometimes he would describe how he wants me to take the pictures and I have to comply.
It’s very stressful. Sometimes from 6pm, I can be sending different styles till maybe 10pm because he would keep saying, “I didn’t take it well or I should take it in a particular way”.
When I complain that I am tired, he would threaten to cheat on me arguing that I don’t love him.
He always says there are so many porn sites for him to visit and many ladies desperately looking to date him, so I should be grateful he is asking for my nudes. I am so tired but I don’t know what to do.
He won’t listen to anything I say. Sometimes, I just want to block him everywhere but he would come to the school to talk a full bucket. I’m not happy at all; I can’t even learn. My GPA has reduced ever since I met him but he thinks he’s helping me.
What should I do for this to stop? What if he uses the nude pictures against me one day? What do you advise I should do?
FG/AME
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