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Dear GhanaWeb,
I am a 33-year-old man who is gay. I have a partner who is 28 years old. We are very happy together, but unfortunately, it’s an abomination in this part of our world to engage in a same-sex affair.
In my family, we marry within the ages of 20 to 24 because we are well-to-do and we believe in growing up together with our kids.
When I turned 26 and was not married, I started receiving complaints and pressure from my parents and other relatives. Even my kid brother wanted me to marry so he could follow.
I paid a lady GH₵5 million to marry me and pretend to live with me for a while before she left, which we accomplished without anyone noticing.
The lady is aware I’m gay, and she has signed to keep it a secret. My partner comes to the house and we enjoy ourselves.
The problem now is that it’s been seven years, and this lady hasn’t left the house yet. Instead, she brings in her lover, and they indulge in sexual affairs all over the place.
My partner is worried about her behaviour, but anytime we ask her to leave, she threatens to expose me to my family. She eats my food, uses everything in the house, drives my cars, takes money from me and even takes money from my parents, though I paid her off.
My lover and I adopted a child, and he’s five now. This is just to make my family feel like the lady and I have a kid when it’s actually otherwise. She uses everything to take unnecessary money from my family.
She crashed my dad’s Tesla and did the same to one of his other cars last year. I hate the fact that I have to pretend we are happy couples when people come visiting.
The agreement was that she’ll leave after a kid is adopted, so I just keep telling my family she’s abroad. We had to wait two years before adopting because we wanted it to seem she flew out to have the baby before returning, and even that cost me almost GH₵7million.
She has made all this money from me, yet she’s not leaving. She is getting out of hand, and I want a way to send her out of the house. I want to do this peacefully without being exposed to my family.
Last month, my partner and I planned to poison her, but I felt they might find out she was poisoned, so we let her live. I’m just scared we may do something harmful to her if this doesn’t stop.
What should I do or say to her for her to leave us alone? Will I be caught if I poison her? I’m devastated, and I need help.
FG/SEA
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