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Dear GhanaWeb,
I am a final-year nursing student, currently 24 years old. I’ve been in a relationship with a man for the past three years, he is 34 years old.
A few months into the relationship, I found out he didn’t have a job. When I asked him why, he said his brother was preparing documents for him to travel abroad and that everything would be ready in a few weeks so he could leave the country to seek greener pastures.
But weeks turned into months, and now it’s been three years, and there is still no sign of him leaving.
Throughout these years, I’ve tried talking to him. I encouraged him to at least find something to do to earn a living while he awaits his travel documents. Maybe it’s not God’s plan for him to make it abroad, he could still be successful here in Ghana if he puts in the effort.
Yes, the economy isn’t great, but at his age, he has no job, no property, no income?
Every time I bring this up, he comes up with different stories, excuses, really, that only cover up his laziness. I’ve stayed loyal to him all these years, even though he doesn’t support me financially, and I’ve been okay with that because I genuinely loved him and wanted to stand by him through the hustle.
But now, looking at how things are going, he is clearly not willing to make any move to improve his life.
Would I be wrong to end things and move on with my life? We’ve never been intimate because I believe in no sex before marriage.
I’m deeply worried about what the future holds for me if I stay with him. Honestly, he is beginning to irritate me, especially when he calls me at 10 a.m. saying he just woke up, while his peers are out there struggling to succeed, with some already married and raising families.
It hurts. Would I be selfish if I walk away from this relationship?
I need help. What should I do?
FG/EB
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