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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over four years now. In the beginning, he was loving, sweet, and attentive. He made me feel cherished, and I truly believed he was the one.
I prayed for him daily, supported him emotionally and financially, and hoped we would settle down and build a life together.
But over time, everything changed. He’s become distant and cold. He barely calls or texts anymore, and when he does, it feels forced.
He’s always “busy” and only sees me occasionally. It feels like I’m the only one trying to keep the relationship alive. Talking to him now leaves me feeling drained and heartbroken.
I spend more time crying and worrying than feeling loved or valued.
I’m 29 and he’s 34. At this point, we should be talking about marriage, but he avoids any serious conversations.
He used to care deeply about my life and well-being, but for over a year now, he’s been emotionally absent.
He doesn’t contribute anything financially, but I haven’t been bothered because I have a job. In fact, I often support him, even paying for things he should be handling himself.
We saved and bought land together. I contributed GH₵80,000, and he added some more to purchase and wall the land. He also owes me an additional GH₵20,000 which I gave him recently for something urgent.
Unfortunately, the land is registered in his name alone, and now I have nothing left in my account.
These investments and sacrifices make it hard for me to walk away, even when I feel unloved and disrespected.
I still love him and wish he would take us seriously, but I feel used and taken for granted. I’ve gone through so much for him, including four abortions, and I’m left wondering what I got in return.
Every time I try to end things, he makes grand promises that he’s working hard for our future, asking me to be patient. But I no longer know what to believe. I’m exhausted emotionally and financially.
Please, what should I do? Should I leave this man who won’t officially end things but clearly doesn’t value me anymore? How do I begin to rebuild my life after giving him so much?
And most importantly, how can I retrieve my share of the land and the money when everything is in his name?
I feel like I’ve lost myself in this relationship, and I don’t know how to find my way out.
FG/EB