File photo of a worried woman
Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been married for over four years now. When we got married, things were difficult financially. At one point, my husband was unemployed, and I stood by him through it all. I even spoke to one of his friends to help him find a job because he was too shy to ask for help himself.
Eventually, his friend came through, and my husband landed a well-paying job. I was overjoyed. We have two children, and during the hard times, I was the one providing for our family. My husband is very hardworking, and I’ve always admired his dedication to his job.
But things started to change when his female boss entered the picture. She insists he accompany her everywhere, even though he’s not a driver or her personal assistant. He travels constantly with her, and anytime I express discomfort, he brushes it off, saying it’s because he’s smart and hardworking. He also tells me she pays him for the extra hours, so it’s worth it.
Still, something didn’t sit right with me. Then, I found a photo of the two of them at a pool—he was shirtless, and she was right beside him. When I asked about it, he casually said he had only taken her there and decided to swim too.
I tried to believe him, until a few days ago when I saw their chats.
What I found broke me. Photos of them in hotels—some where they were naked, others kissing, and several in pools and on beaches. Their messages were intimate and explicit. She had even sent him large sums of money, supposedly for him and the family. But I never saw any of that money. He continued to act like he was still struggling financially.
To make things worse, I found out he was recently promoted, something he never told me about. The messages made it clear: he’s in love with her. He’s not just with her for financial gain—he’s emotionally invested. He even talked about starting a family with her.
He has travelled with her to Dubai, lied to me about it, saying he was going to Kumasi for a new branch opening. He’s staying nights away, keeping secrets, and pushing us aside. I’m heartbroken.
I’m currently three months pregnant with our third child, and I don’t know what to do. Should I stay in this marriage for the sake of our children, or walk away with whatever dignity I have left? Is there still hope that I can be loved and happy again?
I’m lost, scared, and deeply hurt.
FG/EB