File photo of a worried woman
Dear GhanaWeb,
My dad is currently 65 and he has a tattoo on both his arms, chest and back. He is old now, he doesn’t even care about those tattoos anymore, unlike when we were younger and he used to wear singlets most of the times to show them off.
My father was really into women, he worried our mom with his constant cheating until she had high blood pressure and passed away in 2015 after developing stroke at just 49 years old.
Our father is definitely sorry because he has been very good to us since our mom’s demise.
He has been responsible, but unfortunately he wasted most of his money during his youth so it was too late for him to do anything tangible for us, but he has built a home where we all live rent free.
The issue is that, I’m always fighting with my father. I’m the last born, a lady and 29 years of age.
I just hate to see those tattoos. Though he doesn’t dress to display them, I remember my mom when I look at them and how he made her suffer, then I begin to fight him.
All my siblings have moved out so I’m the only person staying with him. Sometimes I beat him with pestle and other stuff I find around the house till he gets hurt, other times he even bleeds.
He doesn’t tell anyone about it, he just tells them he fell. I feel so bad, but I can’t stop hitting him with stuff.
Recently, I slapped him and he fell and hit his head on the floor and went unconscious but I managed to revive him, and we later went to the hospital. He’s since been bleeding through his nose occasionally.
I’ve done too much harm to this man because of the pain he caused us and our mom. We are all struggling, none of us is successful though he had money because he didn’t really start taking care of us early.
I want to get rid of this rage and just be a daughter to him, I’m his favourite, I don’t know why I’m hurting him. I feel sorry for him sometimes but I repeat it again and again.
Please guide me, I’m not happy. I’m also single, sometimes I feel life is so unfair and I project my anger on him. The fact that he keeps telling everyone he fell means he still loves and protecting me.
I honestly want to stop this but I don’t know how to go about it. What should I do now?
FG/EB