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Dear GhanaWeb,
Two years ago, I met a man who approached me with charm and confidence.
He didn’t wear a wedding ring and never mentioned that he was married.
It was only after I had already developed feelings for him that he revealed the truth: he was married but claimed his marriage was falling apart.
He told me he was unhappy and in the process of divorcing his wife and assured me I had nothing to worry about.
Truthfully, I lost interest immediately. I told him clearly that I wasn’t looking to repeat past mistakes, I had previously been involved with a married man, and it ended in heartbreak. But he persisted, promising to be different.
He swore that his divorce would be finalized soon and convinced me to give him a chance. I reluctantly agreed, holding onto hope that he would follow through on his words.
He took good care of me, yes, but love is more than money and sweet talk.
Months passed, six, then twelve. Still no sign of a divorce. Instead, he would occasionally block my number and delete our conversations to keep me hidden from his wife. He never acknowledged me publicly. No pictures. No dates. Always in the shadows. I felt invisible.
When I began to speak up and threaten to leave, he would plead with me. He would act like the divorce was right around the corner, asking my opinion about his child’s future and how to handle things with his wife. He shared stories about how everyone was hurting, including him.
But it was all just that, stories. Lies, to keep me hanging on.
After nearly three years of being strung along, I finally saw the truth. Just three months after begging me to give him more time, I saw him in public with his wife. She was heavily pregnant with their second child.
He treated her with care and affection, like the ideal husband. It shattered me.
I was sincerely in love with him. I gave him my time, emotional support, and affection. I never asked for much, just the allowance he voluntarily gave me.
I stood by him during his dark days, advised him, comforted him, loved him fully. And this is how I was repaid.
Now, I want him to take responsibility. I believe I deserve some form of compensation for the time, emotions, and trust he wasted.
If he refuses, I’m seriously considering telling his wife everything. I know where they live.
He shouldn’t get to walk away without consequences after deceiving me so completely.
Why do married men lie like this? Why play with people’s emotions? It’s cruel and selfish.
What should I do now? Should I confront his wife and tell her everything?
FG/EB
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