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Dear GhanaWeb,
Over a year ago, I broke up with a man I had dated for five years. Our relationship had become emotionally exhausting, he wasn’t managing his finances well, he constantly flirted with other women, and at 30, I felt I had outgrown that kind of instability.
I ended things because I was tired and wanted someone serious, someone who shared my vision for settling down and building a future together.
He pleaded with me to give the relationship another chance, but I had already emotionally checked out. At the time, I had started talking to someone else who seemed promising, but that relationship ended within three months. He turned out to be worse.
Shortly after our breakup, my ex got a good job and his life changed dramatically. Today, he owns two cars and is doing well financially. I want to be clear, I’m not after his money. I stayed with him for five years because I loved him, not because of what he had. But I won’t pretend I don’t feel a deep sense of pain and betrayal.
Now, he’s getting married, less than two years after our breakup, to someone he’s only known for a short while. Meanwhile, I’m still single. Every man I’ve met since has shown the same unserious behaviour. It’s discouraging.
What hurts the most is that I was with him at his lowest. I supported him emotionally and even made sacrifices that cost me dearly, including going through multiple abortions.
I poured years of my life into a relationship that, in the end, didn’t lead anywhere. And now, someone else is walking into the life I believed we were building together.
I’ve reached out to him multiple times over the past six months, asking for another chance. He claimed he wasn’t ready to date, yet now he’s preparing to marry someone else. How do I make peace with that?
It feels deeply unfair. I’m angry, heartbroken, and confused. I know many will say I should move on or wait for karma, but right now, all I feel is that I was cheated.
Part of me doesn’t want to let this go. I feel like either he or the marriage must pay for what I’ve lost.
What should I do now?
FG/EB
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