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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been married for five years and have two children with my husband. When we met, he seemed perfect, loving, open, wealthy, and handsome. Though intimacy was never his strong suit, I stayed faithful because I truly loved him.
A few months before our wedding, I noticed signs that he might be cheating. Still, I ignored them, I was the one he chose to marry, after all. But shortly after the wedding, he would come home smelling of various women’s perfumes. Not just once or twice, but constantly, and each time it was a different scent.
I kept quiet and observed, hoping it was nothing serious. But the signs became too frequent to ignore. Then, just recently, I found a woman’s underwear in his pocket. It was stained, had a strong smell of semen, and clearly hadn’t just “been picked off the floor,” as he claimed. Yes, that was his excuse, he said he found it somewhere and brought it home to throw away. What kind of man brings such an item home if he’s innocent?
This man continues to deny cheating, despite the obvious evidence. He begs me not to leave, but I’m at my breaking point. I’ve cried in silence for years while raising our children, trying to hold the family together. Meanwhile, he’s out chasing other women, risking my health and our family’s peace.
Is this what marriage is supposed to be like? Why can’t some men remain faithful? I’m tired, I feel disrespected, and I no longer trust him. I’m seriously considering divorce, but I’m confused. He’s begging for another chance.
Is it okay to walk away from a man who refuses to change, no matter how many chances he’s been given?
FG/EB
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