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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m a 25-year-old boy who lives with my mother and older sister. Every night, a spirit comes to wake me up, and it’s a woman.
I’ve never seen her face, but she comes through the roof, taps me on the forehead, and asks me to wake up.
She then makes me follow her to where my sister sleeps, makes me go around her three times, and rub her face. Then she lets me sleep with her while she sits and watches me until I’m done. After that, she leaves through the roof, and I go back to sleep.
This has been happening for the past seven months, and my sister has never woken up during the act.
She only wakes up in the morning to complain that someone slept with her. She doesn’t even know it’s me, but I always know that I did something with her. I have no control over what happens every dawn, even when I try to say no, I’m unable to speak.
I watch my sister struggle, moving from one pastor to another with our mother, searching for a solution.
They’re wasting money, but I can’t bring myself to say that I’m the one the spirit uses to sleep with her, because I feel terrible about it.
There are times I deliberately stay awake, hoping the moment will pass, but every time that hour comes, the spirit appears… and I lose all control until she leaves and morning comes.
Sometimes I try to shout, but I’m unable to. I’ve even tried sleeping elsewhere to avoid it, but whenever I stay out and midnight comes, something possesses me, I just feel an overwhelming urge to go home. And no matter where I sleep, I always find myself back at home by morning.
Once the woman arrives, it’s like I can’t speak or do anything for myself. Sometimes, even after she’s gone, I’m not fully asleep, but I feel numb and lifeless until morning.
Inside, I’m filled with sadness, and it breaks me to see my sister crying and complaining to our mother, saying it happened again. I’m scared and ashamed to tell them what really happens during those hours. I’ve tried sleeping with a Bible beside me. I’ve even read it and prayed, but nothing changes.
Sometimes I feel like maybe if I told my mother, we could find a solution together. But how would they look at me? What would they think of me?
And one thing I still don’t understand is, why doesn’t my sister ever wake up?
Sometimes she says she sleeps during the day so she can stay awake at night, but every time I go to her at midnight, she’s already asleep. I think of so many ways to resist it in my mind, but none of them ever work. I don’t know who the woman that comes through the roof is, but I know she’s destroying my family.
Should I tell my sister and my mother that I’m the one doing this, though it’s under the influence of a strange spirit? Or should I let them keep searching for solutions on their own? I’m deeply unhappy for my sister; she’s struggling. We’re all stuck, nothing in our lives seems to be moving forward.
Just last night, she followed some spiritual directions meant to stop it from happening, but it didn’t work.
I don’t know what to do anymore.
FG/EB
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