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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’m a 27-year-old woman who graduated from university four years ago.
I got my current job right after completing my national service.
I work as a secretary at a prestigious company, and the working environment is incredibly healthy and friendly.
I’m so close to the CEO of the company that I end up doing many of the tasks his personal assistant is supposed to handle. My salary is good, so I can’t complain.
My boss is breathtakingly tall, dark-skinned, and incredibly handsome.
I wouldn’t be surprised if all the women in the company had a crush on him. At first, I thought he was married because he seemed so responsible and kind.
I mean, why would such a great guy be single? So, I kept my feelings to myself and just crushed on him from a distance, not wanting to ruin our professional relationship.
I never gave him any hints that I liked him, but the way he occasionally stares at me makes me wonder if he feels the same way.
I didn’t want to assume anything until one day when he asked me if I knew of any nice restaurants nearby because he was famished and wanted us to go have lunch together.
Jokingly, I asked why I would want to go eat with my boss, who I assumed was married. He laughed and asked me, “Who told you I’m married?”
I was surprised when he told me he wasn’t married and that I could go with him. I was so happy inside, though I wasn’t sure if it was obvious.
He asked why I was blushing, and I didn’t know how to respond, so I just laughed it off.
A few hours later, I took him to a nice, fancy restaurant, and he said he liked the ambiance and everything. That’s when he started telling me how closely he’s been watching me and how dedicated I am to my job.
He then revealed that he had liked me from the very first day he saw me at work. I was shocked because it had been more than two years, and I couldn’t understand how he had managed to hide his feelings for so long.
I had honestly thought I was the only one who had feelings for him. We started hanging out after work, getting to know each other better.
A few days later, we began dating, and it felt like the feeling was mutual. We were so into each other, but at work, we pretended not to be a couple to avoid any issues with other employees.
I eventually spent some time with him at his house. He lives in a duplex and told me his home was also mine, encouraging me to make myself comfortable.
We spent the weekend together, and we made out too. Honestly, I was happy there’s this incredible feeling when you’ve had a crush on someone for so long and finally get the chance to be with them.
I felt amazing. But when I went to work the next day, I started feeling some tension when I saw him. Despite that, he was still professional and normal with me.
It’s been six months, and we’ve been great together. I sometimes feel jealous when I see him interacting with my colleagues, and I don’t hide it from him. He always reassures me that I’m the one he loves and reminds me that work is work, so I should keep that in mind.
Yesterday, when he came to work, he wasn’t looking cheerful. I went to his office and asked if something was wrong, but he didn’t really say much.
As I was about to leave, he asked me if I wanted us to break up or if I would leave the company.
I was completely thrown off. I have no idea what’s going on, and he hasn’t explained anything.
He told me to think about it; either I stop working for him and find another job, or we break up.
This really broke my heart because the fact that he even mentioned breaking up made me feel like our relationship meant nothing to him.
I’m so confused and devastated. I love him so much, and I can’t bear the thought of losing him, but my job is just as important to me. What should I do now?
FG/EB
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