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Dear GhanaWeb,
I was 32 years old when I met my husband.
He was nearly 38 and single. He didn’t really seem like my type, but I was desperate to settle down.
I was eager to find someone, even though he wasn’t what I had imagined for a future partner.
He is not fluent in English and has a rough, somewhat uncivilised demeanour. He is a plumber who gets a lot of work, traveling often but still spends time at home.
If I were younger, I wouldn’t have agreed to marry him, but I might have dated him for his financial stability and generosity.
He is a good-looking man, but his style and way of speaking does not match my ideal.
As a woman, I’ve always wanted someone who is handsome, well-dressed, and speaks fluently.
When he proposed, I was hesitant, but I agreed because by then, I was 33, and I felt like no better man was going to come my way.
I had other men in my life, but none of them wanted marriage or to marry me.
Once we married, I began resenting myself for settling for him. We didn’t attend any corporate events, and his friends are all local.
I’m often embarrassed by him, so I don’t enjoy being seen with him in public.
Things got worse. I became pregnant by another man because I don’t enjoy being intimate with my husband. I find him unattractive, and the man I got pregnant by is also married.
He is the man I wanted to marry before he left me for someone else. We dated for two years, and I was deeply in love with him.
After the heartbreak, I reached out to him once I realised I had married the wrong person. We’ve been intimate ever since, and I never mentioned to my ex that I was pregnant with his child. This is a secret that will remain hidden because my husband believes the child is his.
Now, I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again, and I don’t know who the father is.
My problem is that my ex mentioned he wished I could give him a child because his wife only gave him one, and she is battling PCOS.
He desperately wants a son. My first child is a boy, and he is his.
I’m terrified of what would happen if I told him that my son is his. He is unreliable, so I fear revealing the truth to him. I wish he could know the truth and include the child in his plans.
He is wealthier than my husband and could give the boy a better life. But I’m scared that if he finds out, he will tell my husband. As much as I don’t love my husband, I still don’t want to leave my marriage. What should I do now?
FG/EB
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