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<\/div>\nWomen worry that their boyfriends are judging their looks, their weight, and their cleanliness. They worry that their boyfriends are easily bored, will stray, and don\u2019t care about them. <\/p>\n
These worries and feelings of insecurity often relate to their poor self-esteem and need to please others, but they are also unfounded. Most men aren\u2019t like this at all.<\/p>\n
Here are 8 tiny things women worry about in relationships that\u00a0men don\u2019t even notice:<\/p>\n
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1. \u201cDoes he find me attractive?\u201d<\/h3>\n
Ladies, if he is spending time with you, then he finds you attractive.\u00a0End of story.\u00a0Guys don\u2019t sit around and obsess about what you are wearing your hairstyle or your eye makeup.\u00a0<\/p>\n
They are usually not that shallow.\u00a0They tend to just see the whole picture and either ask you out or look the other way.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Once you\u00a0get that first date, then it becomes more about your sense of humor your intelligence, and your personality.\u00a0After that first date, they may give you an approving look or compliment your outfit if you look especially hot.\u00a0But it\u2019s not something they notice as much as you think.<\/p>\n
2. \u201cDoes he think I\u2019m fat?\u201d<\/h3>\n
Again, if he has asked you out, then you have passed his criteria.\u00a0Your constant comments about your weight, your derriere, and the flatness of your stomach are only drawing his attention to your insecurity.\u00a0And\u00a0insecurity is a turn-off\u00a0for most guys.\u00a0<\/p>\n
One of the biggest turn-ons is confidence, so stop asking him if you\u2019re fat!\u00a0If he does seem to focus on your weight or comment on it frequently, then he might not be the right guy for you.\u00a0Acceptance is a huge part of love and relationships.<\/p>\n
3. \u201cIs he ignoring my texts? Why isn\u2019t he answering me?\u201d<\/h3>\n
Most men have a different texting timetable\u00a0than women.\u00a0He might be working out, talking to his male friends, taking a dump, getting some work done, playing video games, or a variety of other activities.\u00a0He is probably not staring at his phone, just waiting for your text.\u00a0<\/p>\n
If he is, then how attractive is a guy that doesn\u2019t have better things to do?\u00a0And, honestly, haven\u2019t you sometimes take a while to respond to a text?\u00a0It only seems to take longer when you are waiting for a response.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t forget, a watched pot never boils.\u00a0Try to not respond to your anxiety by blowing up his phone with a string of increasingly angry texts.\u00a0Unless, of course, you would like to fight.<\/p>\n
4. \u201cWhy am I putting more effort into making plans than he does?\u201d<\/h3>\n
Most guys are happy just going along with whatever you\u2019d like to do.\u00a0They don\u2019t make the plans because they don\u2019t know what you want to do and they are terrified of guessing wrong.\u00a0They\u2019re pretty content just sitting around with their friends, drinking beer, and playing video games.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Is that really what you want to do?\u00a0Then stop complaining, and plan something more fun!\u00a0When your guy is with you, he wants to do something different than what he does with his friends anyway.\u00a0<\/p>\n
5. \u201cWill my friends like him?\u201d<\/h3>\n
If you like him, then your friends will probably like him.\u00a0If you are worried about what they will think, then either you aren\u2019t feeling that great about the relationship or you need less critical friends.\u00a0Most guys never even worry about what their friends think.<\/p>\n
6. \u201cIs my apartment clean and will he think I\u2019m messy?\u201d<\/h3>\n
Trust me\u2026he doesn\u2019t care.\u00a0I\u2019m pretty sure it\u2019s cleaner than his place if you are even worrying about this.\u00a0<\/p>\n
And if you are at the point in the relationship where you have invited him to your place, then there are going to be other things on his mind other than your apartment\u2019s cleanliness.<\/p>\n
7. \u201cIs he attracted to someone else?\u201d<\/h3>\n
Unfortunately, this can become a huge problem in your relationship since it can\u00a0turn into a nasty self-fulfilling prophecy.\u00a0A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that you make about the future (\u201cI will probably have a terrible time at the party\u201d) which you then proceed to validate (\u201cI didn\u2019t talk to anybody or smile or dance at the party and I had a terrible time\u201d).\u00a0<\/p>\n
After one of these self-fulfilling prophesies, everyone then says the same thing \u2014 \u201cSee?\u00a0I told you so!\u201d What they don\u2019t realize is that they created the reality that they didn\u2019t want.\u00a0<\/p>\n
This can happen when you worry about whether your boyfriend is attracted to other women.\u00a0The more that you worry about it, the more you seem insecure and needy.\u00a0You tend to question him more, act jealous around other girls, and set ridiculous rules for his behavior.\u00a0<\/p>\n
These types of behaviors can make him question the relationship and can come between the two of you.\u00a0Before you know it, he finds himself looking at other women. Most secure guys are not worried about your relationship with him or about your friendships with other guys.\u00a0<\/p>\n
If you have a healthy relationship, then you both should feel secure and trust each other.\u00a0 However, if he does seem to be overly concerned about your attraction to other guys or is controlling about your behavior, then you should be concerned.\u00a0It most likely means that your relationship is not secure and trusting.<\/p>\n
8. \u201cDoes he think about me when I\u2019m not around like I think about him?\u201d<\/h3>\n
Research has shown\u00a0that women are better at multitasking than men and require less brainpower to do so.\u00a0It is much easier for you to think about him while you move through your other tasks and activities during your day.\u00a0However, women often feel overwhelmed and scattered as a result.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Men focus better on one thing at a time, and so he is thinking about work when he is at work and thinking about you when he is with you.\u00a0This doesn\u2019t mean that he loves you any less than you love him.\u00a0<\/p>\n
So don\u2019t expect that he is thinking about you all the time.\u00a0You\u2019ll only be disappointed and angry which will cause more tension in the relationship and\u00a0lead to more fights.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Instead, focus on all of his positive traits and your loving feelings, and you\u2019ll look forward to seeing him.<\/p>\n
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