{"id":139375,"date":"2024-01-15T19:03:24","date_gmt":"2024-01-15T19:03:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2024\/01\/15\/the-5-stages-of-love-and-why-your-relationship-may-not-make-it-past-stage-3\/"},"modified":"2024-01-15T19:03:24","modified_gmt":"2024-01-15T19:03:24","slug":"the-5-stages-of-love-and-why-your-relationship-may-not-make-it-past-stage-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2024\/01\/15\/the-5-stages-of-love-and-why-your-relationship-may-not-make-it-past-stage-3\/","title":{"rendered":"The 5 stages of love, and why your relationship may not make it past stage 3"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Here\u2019s to ditching the rose-coloured glasses for a grounded and more realistic look at the evolution of love.<\/p>\n

Love\u2014a word easily tossed around like football and ever so often misused. But what is it, really?<\/h2>\n

How does it change over time? Is love simply chemistry or does it evolve to something deeper? No one fully knows the answer to that.<\/p>\n

Psychologists suggest that love unfolds in five different stages. This framework was proposed by\u00a0Professor Arthur Aron<\/strong>, and designed to map the journey from butterflies in the stomach to, well, who knows? The outcome is mostly unpredictable.<\/p>\n

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Stage 1: Infatuation<\/h3>\n

This is the \u201choneymoon phase,\u201d where you\u2019re head over heels in love with your special someone. You\u2019re obsessed with their smile, their laugh, their very existence. It\u2019s intense, exciting, and\u2026temporary.<\/p>\n

Sadly, this feeling, fueled by hormones like dopamine and oxytocin, making you feel as high as a stoner, never lasts. Butterflies can\u2019t fly forever.<\/p>\n

Stage 2: Intimacy<\/h3>\n

As the initial frenzy settles, we enter stage two \u2013 intimacy. This is where you get to know each other, flaws and all. You share secrets, dreams, fears, and vulnerabilities. You slowly build a foundation of trust and understanding; like a safe space.<\/p>\n

As the intense passion of early romance subsides, you develop a deeper connection with your partner; a feeling of strong attachment and contentment. The sex might not be as wild, but it\u2019s deeply satisfying.<\/p>\n

Stage 3: Disillusionment<\/h3>\n

This is the phase where we begin to see things as they truly are. Our temporary colour blindness to those glaring red flags finally clears off.<\/p>\n

You might be faced with different opinions, habits, or even dealbreakers. The rose-coloured glasses come off, and we see each other clearly.<\/p>\n

It is a bumpy phase, and sadly, many relationships never make it past this third stage.<\/p>\n

Stage 4: Commitment<\/h3>\n

If your love survives stage three, congratulations! You\u2019ve survived the storm and entered the fourth stage \u2013 commitment.<\/p>\n

This stage is about choosing each other and building a future together. You\u2019re weathering a storm and emerging stronger, knowing you can face anything as a team. You stand by each other through thick and thin and pick each other up when you fall. It\u2019s about \u201cwe,\u201d not just \u201cme\u201d and \u201cyou.\u201d You both decided to make it work, and it worked.<\/p>\n

Stage 5: Companionship<\/h3>\n

Remember those butterflies you felt in stage one? They might return, but in a different form. This new phase is both a comfortable and fulfilling one. It\u2019s a quiet assurance that your partner is your rock, your confidante and best friend. You understand each other, respect each other, and simply enjoy being together. Not many couples reach this phase, but those who do are the ones who patiently and consciously work on their relationship.<\/p>\n

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