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We all have that one ex who refuses to let go of the past. They still think that they have a chance with you no matter how many times you\u2019ve told them that they don\u2019t. <\/p>\n
Though it can be harmless, things can get creepy quickly.<\/p>\n
I have an ex who has stalked me ever since we broke up 5 years ago. Then, I found out that he named his daughter after me.<\/p>\n
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Harry was a great guy. We got along well and for the most part, we had a good relationship. We thought that we would end up getting married. It was unusual especially since I was still in my party girl phase and was quite immature. However, Harry saw something in me that he liked and thought was wife material.<\/p>\n
At the time we met, he was working in a different city which made it difficult to meet regularly. He would come to my city every weekend so we could spend time together.<\/p>\n
After a few months of dating, he applied for a new job position in my city and was transferred. The job was more demanding but he wanted to be close to me so he took it.<\/p>\n
I appreciated the gesture but I was not ready for a serious relationship. I felt like things were moving too fast so I took a step back to get some room to breathe.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat\u2019s going on? You\u2019ve been acting strange ever since I moved closer to you.\u201d He said.<\/p>\n
\u201cI just feel overwhelmed.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy? I thought that you wanted this.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI do but it\u2019s happening a bit fast.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat\u2019s okay. I\u2019ll give you your space.\u201d<\/p>\n
Despite his many good qualities, Harry had one big flaw. He was clingy. He didn\u2019t know how to respect boundaries. Unfortunately, he fell in love with a girl who didn\u2019t like clingy people. I like my space and I\u2019m one of the few girls who prefer not talking to my partner every day.<\/p>\n
I knew that he wouldn\u2019t give me space. However, he tried. He would go for a day without calling or messaging me but he would call first thing in the morning, the following day. It was a losing battle so I gave in and tried to cope with his personality.<\/p>\n
\u201cI want to open a savings account together, babe.\u201d He said.<\/p>\n
I was surprised by his offer since we had only been dating for around 6 months but who was I to refuse especially since I wasn\u2019t contributing anything?<\/p>\n
\u201cWe can use the money for a holiday or something.\u201d He continued.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat\u2019s okay,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
The following day, we went to the bank and opened a joint savings account. I remember that day so vividly because we had gone clubbing the previous night and I didn\u2019t have any change of clothes so I went with my short dress and sky-high heels. Harry gave me his jacket so I could be warm but I could see how the bank staff was looking at me.<\/p>\n
He tried everything to make me happy and make me feel like I was part of his life but I was still not ready to commit fully. Since I didn\u2019t want to waste his time anymore, I decided to end the relationship. He tried everything in his power to make me get back together with him \u2013 sending me flowers, asking my friends to talk to me, taking me out on dates \u2013 but I had made up my mind and it was hard to change it.<\/p>\n
After going back and forth, Harry accepted that the relationship was over. However, he didn\u2019t give up completely. He called me regularly throughout the years to \u201ccheck up on me\u201d even when he got into another relationship. We had built a good relationship so I stayed in touch but set my boundaries. Of course, he crossed them. He would call me at all hours of the night and message me tirelessly.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat will your girlfriend think if she sees your messages?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m not doing anything wrong. I\u2019m just checking in on a friend.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWomen don\u2019t care. She might feel like you\u2019re giving too much attention to me. I think you should stop messaging me. I don\u2019t want to be the reason you break up.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cTrust me, that won\u2019t happen. She loves me too much.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSo you\u2019re taking advantage of her love?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, but I want to stay in touch with you.\u201d<\/p>\n
We stayed in touch but when Harry started flirting and asking me to take him back, I knew I had to cut him off completely.<\/p>\n
As the years went by, I thought of him less and less until he was completely out of my mind. I was too focused on my things to remember that time of my life. I used to run into some of our mutual friends now and then but we would say our hellos and continue on our way.<\/p>\n
5 years after our breakup, I thought enough time had passed for him to still have feelings for me so I unblocked him just to see how he was doing. He had a beautiful picture of his young family as his WhatsApp profile picture.<\/p>\n
I thought it was a good conversation starter to congratulate him on his family.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019re a dad now?\u201d I messaged him.<\/p>\n
He replied almost instantly, \u201cSimi, I\u2019ve missed you so much.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI missed you too, Harry. How have you been?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019ve been good. Yes, I have a wife and kid now.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat\u2019s so nice.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHer name is Simi.\u201d<\/p>\n
I thought he was talking about his wife\u2019s name which I still found strange that she had the same name as me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYour wife?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, my daughter\u2019s name is Simi.\u201d<\/p>\n
I knew that Harry was a little bit too obsessed with me but I didn\u2019t think he would go as far as to name his daughter after me.<\/p>\n
\u201cAre you joking?\u201d I asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, that\u2019s her name.\u201d He replied, \u201cI can send you a picture of her birth certificate later.\u201d<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t wait for him to send the certificate. He went back to the blocked list very fast and I pretended like I didn\u2019t have that conversation with him. I\u2019ve never talked about him again and I hope wherever he is, our paths never cross.<\/p>\n
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