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A woman was left stunned after discovering her mum in bed with her cousin, and was further dismayed to learn it had been going on for years.<\/p>\n
The 26-year-old woman had only nipped over to her\u00a0parents\u2019\u00a0house to tell her mum about the holiday she\u2019d just booked, and it soon became apparent that she\u2019d forgotten all about her visit.<\/p>\n
According to this alarmed daughter, her mum had been in the bedroom with a man she\u2019d \u201calways assumed was her cousin\u201d, when she arrived. When her mother eventually emerged, she was \u201cvery embarrassed and made light of it all\u201d, while her \u2018cousin\u2019 collected his things together and headed off.<\/p>\n
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As previously reported by\u00a0WalesOnline,\u00a0the distraught woman \u2013 known only as E.J. \u2013 has now reached out to\u00a0agony aunt\u00a0and trained counsellor Fiona Caine for some words of wisdom.<\/p>\n
In a letter detailing the aftermath of her shocking discovery, the anonymous woman wrote: \u201cI was shocked and didn\u2019t know what to say to her. In the end, we both ignored what we know had happened and I left as soon as I could.\u201d<\/p>\n
E.J. hasn\u2019t spoken to her mum since that day but did discuss her discovery with her brother, who informed her that it had all been going on for some time and was in fact the main reason why he\u2019d been in such a hurry to move out and get his own place.<\/p>\n
Looking back, she now recalls that the \u2018cousin\u2019 had been around the family home more often when her mum was by herself, and she now wonders why she didn\u2019t twig sooner.<\/p>\n
She continued: \u201cMy brother also said that he\u2019d tried a few years back to have a quiet word about it with our father. However, he stopped caring one way or the other, when our father dismissed his worries and told him not to tell me, as I might misunderstand.<\/p>\n
\u201cWell, I don\u2019t misunderstand \u2013 I am 26 and I understand all too clearly. What my mother is doing is wrong and I want her to stop. I also hate that my family has deliberately kept this secret from me.<\/p>\n
\u201cMy parents have lived together all this time, and I don\u2019t know why father seems so tolerant of what is going on. As long as this continues, I don\u2019t want to see her again, but I can\u2019t just shut her out of my life forever, she\u2019s my mother and I love her. What should I do?\u201d<\/p>\n
In response to the anguished letter, Fiona sympathised with E.J.\u2019s difficult situation but advised her to \u201ctry not to judge your mother too harshly\u201d, as she may not yet know all the facts.<\/p>\n
She explained: \u201cFor example, your parents\u2019 marriage might have failed some time ago, but they chose to continue living together under the same roof. Alternatively, they may have adopted a non-monogamous open relationship, leaving each other free to have sexual relationships with other partners.<\/p>\n
\u201cPerhaps your mother is not getting the affection she needs from her husband and looks for it elsewhere. As you didn\u2019t actually see what your mother was doing in the bedroom, is it possible that man might simply be a masseuse or physical therapist of some kind?\u201d<\/p>\n
Although Fiona clarified that this was of course all speculation, she remarked that the length of the supposed relationship means that it\u2019s most likely not a casual one.<\/p>\n
Given that her dad appears reluctant to discuss what\u2019s been going on, Fiona encouraged E.J. to instead speak with her mother without being \u201cangry or judgemental\u201d.<\/p>\n
She continued: \u201cShe may indeed have kept the truth of this situation from you because she thought you were too young at the time to understand, or she was simply too embarrassed.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhatever the reason, you\u2019re an adult now, and you know that things are not always what they seem. Please contact her and explain that you still love her but need to know what is going on.\u201d<\/p>\n
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