Having sex is a good thing. But when your libido goes into overdrive and having sex becomes an obsession, then help is needed.
Sexually expressive people are often viewed as more confident, happier, and generally tend to have more fulfilling relationships with the opposite sex.
The problem arises when a person can no longer control their sexual impulses no matter how devastating the consequences might be.
Sex addiction is the presence of a strong urge to have sex as often as you can or get sexual gratification via pornography, masturbation, flirting or in severe cases even voyeurism.
This urge manifests through certain behaviour that makes a person a sex addict.
You know you are addicted to sex when your healthy libido goes into overdrive and having sex becomes an obsession.
If you or someone you know is addicted to sex, here’s how you can overcome it:
- Acknowledge that it’s happening
The first thing anyone does when they realise they have a cause for concern is to deny it. But admitting to yourself that you may have a problem and accepting it is a crucial step for recovery. Don’t ignore the fact that you may be addicted to sex; face it head-on and find ways to solve it.
What is it that pushes you off the edge and makes you want to give in to your urge for sex? Is it when you’re feeling helpless or unloved? Or simply because you tell yourself that life is too short and you must act on your impulses? Knowing your triggers will go a long way to avoiding them.
Once you know what your triggers are, make a conscious effort to avoid them. Distract yourself with something else. Focus on your other interests; it could be anything—writing, cooking, dancing, trekking, etc. Your energy must go into something constructive and not feed your addiction.
If the addiction goes out of hand, or you feel like you’re not able to control it and might need help, visit a professional. There are tons of counsellors and mental health professionals out there who can help you deal with it. Just remember, you’re not alone in this and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s just another addiction, and like other addictions, you can manage this one too.
You can also seek out people who are going through the same thing as you are. Joining a self-help group will help you discuss your problem without feeling embarrassed about it.
