{"id":999906,"date":"2022-02-22T12:12:58","date_gmt":"2022-02-22T12:12:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/02\/22\/im-sleeping-with-a-hot-guy-from-uni-but-im-worried-he-wants-something\/"},"modified":"2022-02-22T12:12:58","modified_gmt":"2022-02-22T12:12:58","slug":"im-sleeping-with-a-hot-guy-from-uni-but-im-worried-he-wants-something","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/02\/22\/im-sleeping-with-a-hot-guy-from-uni-but-im-worried-he-wants-something\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;I&#8217;m sleeping with a hot guy from uni, but I&#8217;m worried he wants something.."},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"td-post-featured-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"650\" height=\"450\" class=\"entry-thumb\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/millions-of-women-had-sex-they-didnt-want-on-valentines-day.jpg\"   alt=\"\" title=\"couple\"\/><\/div>\n<p><strong>Dear Coleen<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a woman in my twenties and recently I reconnected with a guy I knew at university.<\/p>\n<p> I\u2019ve always fancied him \u2013 he\u2019s hot, clever and really funny \u2013 but I don\u2019t want to be in a serious relationship with anyone right now. <\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ve started sleeping together, but I\u2019ve been honest that I\u2019m not looking for anything exclusive because I\u2019m not ready for it.<\/p>\n<p>He agreed and said he was okay with that but I don\u2019t think he\u2019s being honest, and I\u2019m worried about seeing him if he\u2019s emotionally attached and hoping for more from me.<\/p>\n<p>Is it fair to keep going with this or should I end it before he gets hurt? <\/p>\n<p>I love and respect him as a person and don\u2019t want to do anything to upset him. Please help!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Coleen says<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ve been honest, which is good, however, if you think he\u2019s getting more attached, then the thing to do is bring it up with him and talk about your concerns.<\/p>\n<p>Ask him how he\u2019s feeling about it \u2013 is he still okay with a casual arrangement? Of course, he might say he\u2019s fine with it because he just wants to see you, so ultimately you have to be the judge on whether to keep going.<\/p>\n<p>And, look, he\u2019s a grown man and he\u2019s capable of making his own life choices, so as long as you\u2019re honest, you can\u2019t blame yourself if he says he\u2019s fine, but then ends up hurt.<\/p>\n<p>Just don\u2019t lead him on to make him think it will ever be anything more than this, for instance, saying things like: \u201cI wonder if we\u2019ll end up together.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Keep everything in the present.<\/p>\n<p>            <!--  [embed]https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=videoseries[\/embed]<!--\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>--><\/p>\n<div class=\"youtube-embed\" data-video_id=\"uR35wwBRzmY\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Nsoromma Season_4: Lady Theodora performs &#039;Prisoner&#039; by Luck Dube \ud83d\udd25\ud83d\udd25\ud83d\udd25 - Adom TV (21-2-22)\" width=\"696\" height=\"392\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uR35wwBRzmY?feature=oembed&#038;enablejsapi=1\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Coleen I\u2019m a woman in my twenties and recently I reconnected with a guy I knew at university. I\u2019ve always fancied him \u2013 he\u2019s hot, clever and really funny \u2013 but I don\u2019t want to be in a serious relationship with anyone right now. 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