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Dear Coleen<\/strong>,<\/p>\n

My boyfriend and I have always been very\u00a0open and experimental\u00a0when it comes to sex, and over the past few months, we\u2019ve been having threesomes with one of his good friends. <\/p>\n

However, recently, I saw his friend on my own and we ended up in bed together, which is breaking all the rules we set out at the beginning.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve slept together a few times since and haven\u2019t told my boyfriend, and I\u2019m finding myself becoming more and more attached to him and less so to my boyfriend.<\/p>\n

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I think I could actually be falling in love.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m also feeling very guilty about hiding this from my boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Neither of us knows what to do, but we both agree we feel something deeper for each other and that it\u2019s not only about the sex anymore.<\/p>\n

Even though my boyfriend was the one who suggested the\u00a0threesome\u00a0and brought his friend into it, I know he\u2019ll be devastated if we tell him or he finds out.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m feeling confused and don\u2019t know how to get myself out of this mess \u2013 have you any ideas?<\/p>\n

\"Coleen
Coleen Nolan is the Mirror\u2019s resident agony aunt<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Coleen says<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s always a risky area when you make a sexual fantasy like this a reality.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s so much potential for jealousy and paranoia and, as you\u2019ve discovered, becoming emotionally attached to the person who\u2019s not your partner.<\/p>\n

I think you have to be honest with your boyfriend \u2013 you don\u2019t have to tell him that you\u2019ve been sleeping with his friend on the side \u2013 but you should admit that you\u2019ve developed feelings for this other guy that goes beyond sex. <\/p>\n

Then you have to decide how to move forward. You either decide that sex with this other guy (including the threesomes) can never happen again and you make a proper go of things as a couple, or you end your relationship.<\/p>\n

But don\u2019t carry on sleeping with the other guy behind your boyfriend\u2019s back.<\/p>\n

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