{"id":991695,"date":"2022-02-15T15:53:16","date_gmt":"2022-02-15T15:53:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/02\/15\/im-scared-my-husband-is-going-to-find-out-i-had-phone-sex-with\/"},"modified":"2022-02-15T15:53:16","modified_gmt":"2022-02-15T15:53:16","slug":"im-scared-my-husband-is-going-to-find-out-i-had-phone-sex-with","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/02\/15\/im-scared-my-husband-is-going-to-find-out-i-had-phone-sex-with\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;I&#8217;m scared my husband is going to find out I had phone sex with&#8230;."},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"td-post-featured-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"696\" height=\"392\" class=\"entry-thumb\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/relationship-696x392.jpg\"   alt=\"\" title=\"relationship\"\/><\/div>\n<p><strong>Dear Coleen,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a woman in my 30s, married with one child.<\/p>\n<p>Recently, I started chatting to and messaging a guy I went to school with after he found me on Instagram. <\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d always quite fancied him, but we never dated.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/22191989129,1002554\/MGL\/mgl_ado_atunwa_300x250 --><\/p>\n<p>Anyway, I\u2019m not quite sure how it happened, but our flirty banter turned into\u00a0phone sex\u00a0and now I\u2019m feeling really guilty.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019ve never actually met up and done anything in person, but is this cheating?<\/p>\n<p>My husband has no idea I\u2019ve been chatting to this guy and I\u2019m terrified of him finding out. Where do I go from here?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Coleen says<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Yes, of course, it\u2019s cheating.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ve formed an attachment to another man and you\u2019re having phone sex with him. <\/p>\n<p>Either finish it and block him and start working harder on your marriage, which might be lacking in excitement, or take a hard look at whether you should be in your marriage at all.<\/p>\n<p>Look, we\u2019re all human, we\u2019re all attracted to things that are naughty, and the things we can\u2019t have always seem more attractive, but it\u2019s a choice whether or not to act on these impulses. <\/p>\n<p>You can carry on, but you need to weigh up what you\u2019ve got to lose because it might end your marriage.<\/p>\n<p>You could hook up with this guy and end up thinking: \u201cWhat the hell have I done?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>            <!--  [embed]https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=videoseries[\/embed]<!--\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>--><\/p>\n<div class=\"youtube-embed\" data-video_id=\"czM5Rs7oCkw\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Badwam on Adom TV (14-2-22)\" width=\"696\" height=\"392\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/czM5Rs7oCkw?feature=oembed&#038;enablejsapi=1\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Coleen, I\u2019m a woman in my 30s, married with one child. Recently, I started chatting to and messaging a guy I went to school with after he found me on Instagram. I\u2019d always quite fancied him, but we never dated. Anyway, I\u2019m not quite sure how it happened, but our flirty banter turned into\u00a0phone [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":256647,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[549],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-991695","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/991695","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=991695"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/991695\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=991695"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=991695"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=991695"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}