{"id":974705,"date":"2022-02-03T12:11:14","date_gmt":"2022-02-03T12:11:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/02\/03\/my-parents-and-friends-cant-forgive-my-husband-for-having-an-affair\/"},"modified":"2022-02-03T12:11:14","modified_gmt":"2022-02-03T12:11:14","slug":"my-parents-and-friends-cant-forgive-my-husband-for-having-an-affair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/02\/03\/my-parents-and-friends-cant-forgive-my-husband-for-having-an-affair\/","title":{"rendered":"My parents and friends can’t forgive my husband for having an affair"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Dear Coleen, <\/p>\n

A couple of months ago I found out my husband had been having an affair with a woman at work. <\/p>\n

I was completely devastated at the time, not to mention shocked, as it seemed so out of character.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve always had a really solid relationship. However, the past couple of years have been tough on us and we struggled during the \u00adlockdowns to work and juggle two young children, one of whom has additional needs.<\/p>\n

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We kind of drifted apart and started to resent each other a bit, and also argued for the first time ever. Sex obviously wasn\u2019t on the cards during this period.<\/p>\n

To cut to the chase, he ended the affair, told me he still loved me but explained that he had lost his way. I agreed to give things another shot.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s become easier as the weeks have gone by and I can see how we ended up in this mess.<\/p>\n

But my problem now is that I told some close friends and my parents about the affair.<\/p>\n

Obviously, I felt angry and hurt when I found out and I needed to talk to people and share how I was feeling.<\/p>\n

But now I\u2019ve decided to move on with my husband, none of them has been supportive \u2013 they all think I should have left him after what he did.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve seen these friends and my parents, and it\u2019s been very awkward.<\/p>\n

Have you any advice?<\/p>\n

\"Coleen
Coleen Nolan is the Mirror\u2019s resident agony aunt<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Coleen says,<\/p>\n

I think it\u2019s very easy for someone who\u2019s not in the relationship and who doesn\u2019t love your husband to make a judgment about how he\u2019s behaved.<\/p>\n

It sounds to me as if the pair of you are working through your issues and you both recognise why your marriage was vulnerable to an affair, which I think is very positive. <\/p>\n

Most affairs don\u2019t happen in a vacuum. Yes, sometimes it\u2019s just an opportunity, but a lot of the time it\u2019s because one partner is looking for something their relationship isn\u2019t providing.<\/p>\n

I think your family and friends probably feel hurt and betrayed by this affair, too, and also feel protective of you.<\/p>\n

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