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Hi Chris,<\/em><\/p>\n I don\u2019t know why, but I have terrible luck with my relationships. I keep falling for the wrong men, who never treat me right.<\/em><\/p>\n It\u2019s not as there aren\u2019t loads of really nice guys in my social life. There really are, but the trouble is I\u2019m just never attracted to them.<\/em><\/p>\n And that\u2019s, especially true now that I\u2019m becoming keen to settle down. Every man I end up with just isn\u2019t that way inclined. And ends up messing me about. So how come I always seem to fancy the bad guys?<\/em><\/p>\n Bad Guys<\/em><\/p>\n Chris says,<\/strong><\/p>\n Hi Bad Guys!<\/p>\n Well, let\u2019s admit it, bad\u2019s exciting. Dramatic, sexy and spontaneous. So falling for a bad guy\u2019s understandable. Once!<\/p>\n Because bad guys are also manipulative and deceitful. Some have violent mood swings, exploding into anger over trivial incidents. Others are totally preoccupied with success.<\/p>\n On the plus side they\u2019re super assertive, never anxious and don\u2019t get thrown by failures. Good traits at work. But they think they\u2019re better than everyone else and can be so self centred that they treat anyone else like objects.<\/p>\n They dominate their partners and are unfaithful and unavailable. One minute you feel loved. The next you\u2019re nothing.<\/p>\n They\u2019re fun to be with at first. Charming, full of depth, excitement and passion. But it\u2019s not long before they\u2019re treating you like dirt. Men who are self-interested, driven and competitive do stand out, but they don\u2019t do normal relationships<\/p>\n So if you\u2019re endlessly falling for guys who mistreat you, you need to think why. Because repeatedly falling for bad guys means you\u2019re choosing them, and the reason usually goes back a long way.<\/p>\n Because we often seek out relationships that reflect those in our childhood. So if your parents fought, you\u2019ll go for someone to fight with. If they put each other down, you\u2019ll choose guys who make you feel small. If your parents neglected you, you\u2019ll seek men who neglect you too.<\/p>\n Maybe you keep falling for married men? You\u2019re probably repeating a pattern of feeling unloved in childhood by choosing people who can\u2019t be there for you either.<\/p>\n Or maybe you\u2019re always going for people whose lives are a mess? That often happens if one of your parent also had problems. Your other parent looked after them, so that\u2019s what you do too. Or you think you\u2019ll reform him and become his princess. It won\u2019t happen. Bad guys don\u2019t change.<\/p>\n So how do you avoid being attracted to them? Recognise how your past may be influencing your choices, and deliberately select guys who don\u2019t fit that pattern.<\/p>\n Instantly drop anyone who mistreats you. And make a point of only mixing with people who\u2019re really nice. That way you only have nice guys to fall for!<\/p>\n All the best,<\/p>\n Chris<\/p>\n<\/div>\n Source: The Standard Media Kenya<\/a> <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hi Chris, I don\u2019t know why, but I have terrible luck with my relationships. I keep falling for the wrong men, who never treat me right. It\u2019s not as there aren\u2019t loads of really nice guys in my social life. There really are, but the trouble is I\u2019m just never attracted to them. And that\u2019s, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[55],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-921424","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","category-headlines"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/921424","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=921424"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/921424\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=921424"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=921424"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=921424"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}