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Hi Chris,<\/em><\/p>\n I\u2019ve been dating a guy I thought was just right, but suddenly, right out of the blue he just simply disappeared! <\/em><\/p>\n To begin with I thought it was because he was just one of those flaky guys I\u2019m better off without. But then one of my girlfriends pointed out that it had happened before! <\/em><\/p>\n And she was right. I do seem to lose more than my fair share of promising boyfriends.<\/em><\/p>\n Why do you think that might be happening? And what do I do about it?<\/em><\/p>\n Disappearing Boyfriends<\/em><\/p>\n Chris says,<\/strong><\/p>\n Hi Disappearing Boyfriends!<\/p>\n It\u2019s possible that you\u2019re unconsciously attracting the bad guys. Fix that by only meeting men in places where you already know something about them, like through work or mutual friends.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t even think of dating someone before you\u2019ve checked him out thoroughly. But you\u2019re already doing that? And men still flake on you?<\/p>\n Then it could be something you\u2019re doing. Like pursuing a boyfriend instead of letting him pursue you. Sending too many messages, too clingy, whatever. Because a man needs to feel like he\u2019s the one doing the chasing. So enjoy your friends, your own interests, and don\u2019t always be instantly available.<\/p>\n By all means flirt, but no manipulation games. They\u2019ll get you lots of instant attention, but he\u2019ll soon see through them and wonder why he ever liked you in the first place. Instead just focus on enjoying yourself and having fun together.<\/p>\n Know your boundaries, and say no to anything that you\u2019re not comfortable with. And don\u2019t imagine he knows what you want. Men can\u2019t read minds. So say what you need, and he\u2019ll be happy to give it to you.<\/p>\n Playing hard to get only attracts the game playing bad guys. A good man needs you to show him that you\u2019re interested, or he\u2019ll worry about ending up in your \u2018friend zone.\u2019 So if you\u2019re not showing that you\u2019re sexually attracted to him, he\u2019ll cut his losses and go find someone who is.<\/p>\n Above all, if you want to create a committed relationship with a good guy, you need to make an authentic connection with him. And that starts right from the moment you meet, whether in person or on-line.<\/p>\n So don\u2019t try to be someone you aren\u2019t. Dress and behave so you show your real personality. And be completely honest. That\u2019s not easy, as to begin with you won\u2019t want over-share. Like not saying too much about past relationships. But if your date asks, it\u2019s not a good idea to lie.<\/p>\n Gradually open up as you learn that you can trust him, expect him to be genuine and honest in return, and if he is, chances are he\u2019ll never disappear!<\/p>\n All the best,<\/p>\n Chris<\/p>\n<\/div>\n Source: The Standard Media Kenya<\/a> <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hi Chris, I\u2019ve been dating a guy I thought was just right, but suddenly, right out of the blue he just simply disappeared! To begin with I thought it was because he was just one of those flaky guys I\u2019m better off without. But then one of my girlfriends pointed out that it had happened […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[55],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-917660","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","category-headlines"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/917660","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=917660"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/917660\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=917660"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=917660"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=917660"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}