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<\/div>\nDear Coleen<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019ve been with my partner for nearly eight years and we have two children together. Our relationship hasn\u2019t been easy and he cheated on me four years ago.<\/p>\n I was able to forgive him and move on and things have been OK most of the time. In fact, for a while after the\u00a0cheating, our relationship was better than it had ever been because we talked honestly for the very first time.<\/p>\n Now, though, a woman I don\u2019t know has messaged me via\u00a0Facebook\u00a0to say she slept with my partner several times recently. She seemed angry and bitter, and thought I should know what kind of man I was with.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n I\u2019m destroyed and don\u2019t know what to do. He\u2019s denied it and called her crazy, but I don\u2019t believe him.<\/p>\n Can you help?<\/p>\n Well, I think it\u2019s unlikely that a total stranger would message you out of the blue to tell you that unless it were true. It\u2019s not good enough for your partner to just shut it down and call this woman a crank.<\/p>\n You have to tell him you need to know the truth because it\u2019s the only way of dealing with it. He needs to give you the option of deciding what you want to do about the relationship.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve already moved on from cheating once \u2013 can you do it a second time and rebuild the trust again? I don\u2019t know if you can.<\/p>\n If he continues to deny it, you\u2019ll always have that nagging doubt that he\u2019s lying to you.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n