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Anytime he came around, he had this special smile on. He\u2019ll ask me, \u201cI hope my man is around?\u201d He\u2019s one of the few people who came around without needing an appointment. He won\u2019t break his stride as he asks me the question. He\u2019ll only smile, ask the question and continue walking in.<\/p>\n
One of the things about him that drew my attention was his grey hair and where it\u2019s located in his hair and beard. The grey runs through the left side of his hair like a white line intentionally drawn on a black canvas.<\/p>\n
Grey usually spreads in people\u2019s hair but his\u2019 was a line. It\u2019s the same in his beard. In my mind, he was Mr. Grey because he didn\u2019t tell me his name. He comes around, walks in and comes out, and says goodbye. It was like that until I completed my service and left the company.<\/p>\n
A year after I\u2019d left, we met again. He was the one who approached me. He tapped on my shoulder and said, \u201cAre you the person I think you are?\u201d I said, \u201cMr. Grey. Yeah, it\u2019s me. I was working at your friend\u2019s company. You came around often and you passed me by.<\/p>\n
Yea I\u2019m the one.\u201d He said, \u201cI\u2019ve been watching you from where I\u2019m sitting. You look familiar but I couldn\u2019t put a finger on where I knew you. Oh wow, nice to meet you again.\u201d<\/p>\n
After the program, we talked for a while. He asked what I was doing there and I told him. I told him, \u201cIt\u2019s been tough to get a job after my national service. It looks like the world of work is against me. If you know a place that can take me, I would be glad to go there. I\u2019m ready to work as anything.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m that desperate.\u201d He gave me his number and asked me to call him. A day later I called. Later that day, he texted his email address to me; \u201cSend your CV. I will give it to a few people I know who can help.\u201d<\/p>\n
I sent the CV that very day and he called the next day to give me an update on where he has sent it to. I told him, \u201cDo your best. I\u2019ve been home for far too long.\u201d<\/p>\n
The conversation became often. We texted each other often. One day he said, \u201cIf you\u2019re not busy this Friday, we can attend a program together.\u201d I was jobless. I couldn\u2019t afford to be busy so on that Friday, I sat next to him in his car as he drove us to the program. We spent three hours there and later went to a buffet party.<\/p>\n
We ended up spending the whole night together. He brought me home that day. My mother saw him. After he had gone my mother said, \u201cEiii, is that the turf you\u2019re playing on these days? Isn\u2019t he too old for you?\u201d I answered, \u201cOh he\u2019s just a friend. He\u2019s only helping me to get a job.\u201d She retorted, \u201c\u025bs\u025bwara.\u201d<\/p>\n
A few days after that, he proposed to me. I saw it coming but I didn\u2019t think it would be so soon. That day I asked about his age. He said, \u201cI would be fifty-seven years old very soon. Just three months from today.\u201d I did the maths quickly in my head. Fifty-seven minus twenty-seven is equal to what? Thirty? Wow, such a wide gap.\u201d<\/p>\n
As I was contemplating the age gap, I heard him on the phone saying \u201chello\u201d repeatedly. I answered, \u201dI\u2019m here.\u201d He asked, \u201cAre you thinking about the age difference?\u201d I lied, \u201cNo, I\u2019m not. When love is involved age doesn\u2019t matter.\u201d I said yes to him that very day.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s a divorcee. He has been divorced for three years after thirty years of marriage. He wasn\u2019t ready to tell me the details of his divorce so I didn\u2019t press him. He said, \u201cIt brings a lot of pains to go through all that emotions again. Someday, I will tell you the full story.\u201d He has three children. The eldest is my age mate.<\/p>\n
I knew all this information before I said yes to him. He had been a good person since we met. He sent me money when I hadn\u2019t asked for it. He\u2019ll tell me, \u201cI know you find it hard to ask but take this. You\u2019re unemployed so you\u2019ll need it.\u201d He\u2019ll take me to the salon and wait until I get my hair done. He\u2019ll then pay for it and tell me, \u201cYou\u2019re beautiful.\u201d<\/p>\n
He keeps raising the bar. We dated for six months until I finally landed a job with his help. I didn\u2019t have to do anything. I didn\u2019t even have to attend an interview. I was called one afternoon and told to come over.<\/p>\n
I went to meet the HR. She asked three or four questions and later handed me my appointment letter. It was the happiest day of my life. I really needed that job to keep my body together and also help my family.<\/p>\n
A year later, he said, \u201cI want us to get married.\u201d I was like, \u201cHuh, so soon?\u201d He said, \u201cYeah, that has been the plan all along. The house is empty. I\u2019m an old-school kind of man. I know a house is a home when there\u2019s a woman. I don\u2019t intend to stay this way until I die. I want a family. I\u2019m a family man.<\/p>\n
I want a wife because I loved to be married. Too bad I lost the first one but I won\u2019t let that stop me from being happy again.\u201d I was quiet for a long while. He asked, \u201cOr you don\u2019t see yourself married to me?\u201d I said, \u201cI will do it in a heartbeat but in this situation, I have to get the consent of my parents first. I don\u2019t think It would be easier for me to convince them.\u201d He said, \u201cLet me know if you need my help.\u201d<\/p>\n
It took me weeks before I could muster the courage to tell my mom about it. She asked, \u201cThat same man you told me was a friend? I answered, \u201cYes. Friendship usually grows. When it comes to the friendship of a man and a woman, friendship can take a wild turn. That\u2019s what happened between us. We were friends until we were more than that.<\/p>\n
Now he wants us to get married.\u201d She said, \u201cNo, you can\u2019t marry him. His first child is your age. How do you marry such a man? He has lived his life. He should allow you to live yours. Case close.\u201d<\/p>\n
I wouldn\u2019t allow my mother to stop me so I told my father about it. He made the thing look worse than my mother did. He screamed at me and questioned my intelligence; \u201cYou went to school to this level only to reason like a child?<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t let me feel like I\u2019ve wasted my investment in you. No, you won\u2019t marry such a man. If he wants to marry by all means then he should go out there and look for his age mate. You\u2019re now coming to start your life. He can\u2019t cut you short.\u201d<\/p>\n
We are talking about a good man here. A man who knows how to treat a woman very well. We\u2019ve never fought and we\u2019ve never exchanged bitter words. All he seeks to do is make my life better and nothing else. I\u2019ve dated my age mates and it ended in heartbreak.<\/p>\n
They gave nothing and yet took everything away from me. This one here is not my age mate, accepted, but what about the sunshine he brings to my life? Should my world go dim just because of an age difference?<\/p>\n
Somehow, my senior brother got a hint of it. It could be my mother who told him about it or my dad who went to complain to him. He called me, \u201cWhat is it that I\u2019m hearing? A man as old as our father? Please, we need a brother-in-law, not an ancestor-in-law.\u201d<\/p>\n
Everyone is against my choice of man. It looks like they won\u2019t allow me to write my own love story though I\u2019m the lead character in this story. I\u2019m the one who will burn if something goes wrong. It\u2019s my life so why won\u2019t they allow me to choose?<\/p>\n
My man is patient with me because I asked him to. I\u2019ve given him my word that I would do everything to get my parents to understand but the way things are going, it looks like I\u2019ve hit a brick wall. No one is willing to see it from my perspective and that really hurts my heart.<\/p>\n
Is there a way I can get my parents to understand me? That there\u2019s \u2018old\u2019 in \u2018gold\u2019 so his age shouldn\u2019t matter? I want to marry him. I will do everything to be his wife but currently, all I hear from the people who matter in my life is a no. I want a yes. How do I get it?<\/p>\n
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Lady Laments He\u2019s the attorney for the company I did my national service with. He was friends with the CEO so he came around often. I was the interim personal assistant to the CEO. The main PA went on maternity leave and I replaced her. Anytime he came around, he had this special smile on. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1097525,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[3200,571,1713,3607,889,534,6985],"class_list":["post-1097523","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-entertainment","tag-boyfriend","tag-lady","tag-laments","tag-marrying","tag-parents","tag-stop","tag-sweet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1097523","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1097523"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1097523\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1097523"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1097523"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1097523"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}