{"id":1040727,"date":"2022-03-31T11:19:00","date_gmt":"2022-03-31T11:19:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/03\/31\/a-new-man-who-just-joined-our-birdwatching-group-is-eyeing-up-my-wife\/"},"modified":"2022-03-31T11:19:00","modified_gmt":"2022-03-31T11:19:00","slug":"a-new-man-who-just-joined-our-birdwatching-group-is-eyeing-up-my-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/03\/31\/a-new-man-who-just-joined-our-birdwatching-group-is-eyeing-up-my-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"A new man who just joined our birdwatching group is eyeing up my wife&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"td-post-featured-image\">\n<figure><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"696\" height=\"464\" class=\"entry-thumb\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/1628784977_822_deseo-sexual-696x464.jpg\"   alt=\"\" title=\"sexual\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">File photo: A couple<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<h4>Dear Coleen<\/h4>\n<p>I\u2019ve been married to my wife for 11 years and like most couples, we\u2019ve been through both ups and downs but have largely been happy throughout.<\/p>\n<p>We have many mutual interests and have always shared a particular passion for ornithology \u2013 we\u2019ve been loyal members of our local\u00a0birdwatching\u00a0community for a very long time.<\/p>\n<p>The thing is, a few weeks ago, a new member joined our group and both I and my wife did our best to make him feel welcome.<\/p>\n<p>He seems like a nice man-friendly, easy-going and really knowledgeable about our feathered friends.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/22191989129,1002554\/MGL\/mgl_ado_atunwa_300x250 --><\/p>\n<p>My wife in particular seems to have clicked with him, to the extent where I am now wondering if something is going on between them.<\/p>\n<p>She is spending more time in his company than in mine when we\u2019re all together during the gatherings and I have also noticed him calling her his \u201clittle sparrow\u201d when eavesdropping on their conversations.<\/p>\n<p>Do you think I should speak to my wife about my concerns, or am I just being paranoid? I\u2019d love your opinion on it.<\/p>\n<h4>Coleen says<\/h4>\n<p>Well, the term \u201clittle sparrow\u201d does seem a bit overfamiliar from a bloke she\u2019s just met.<\/p>\n<p>You obviously feel insecure and worried your relationship is being threatened, so of course, you should bring it up with your wife.<\/p>\n<p>The trouble is, now you have this idea in your head that something might be happening, you\u2019re going to be constantly looking for other signs and your \u00adinsecurity (or paranoia) will grow. <\/p>\n<p>Maybe they have clicked, but there might be nothing else to it. He obviously knows she\u2019s\u00a0married\u00a0and you\u2019re with her at these gatherings.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to talk to your wife in a confrontational way or accuse her of anything. Just point out she\u2019s spending more time with him than she is with you, which you don\u2019t like, and it\u2019s making you feel a bit insecure.<\/p>\n<p>She might not even realise she\u2019s doing it or may have to be honest with herself and admit she\u2019s getting too close to him.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s always better to tackle these things straightaway than let suspicion run riot in your head, because that in itself is very damaging to a relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Trust is fundamental and it sounds like you need some reassurance.<\/p>\n<p>            <!--  [embed]https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=videoseries[\/embed]<!--\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>--><\/p>\n<div class=\"youtube-embed\" data-video_id=\"4X3V9pyXGko\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Badwam Intro: Motivation of the day on Adom TV  (31-03-2022)\" width=\"696\" height=\"392\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4X3V9pyXGko?feature=oembed&#038;enablejsapi=1\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>File photo: A couple Dear Coleen I\u2019ve been married to my wife for 11 years and like most couples, we\u2019ve been through both ups and downs but have largely been happy throughout. We have many mutual interests and have always shared a particular passion for ornithology \u2013 we\u2019ve been loyal members of our local\u00a0birdwatching\u00a0community for [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":298559,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[549],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1040727","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1040727","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1040727"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1040727\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1040727"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1040727"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1040727"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}