{"id":1036820,"date":"2022-03-28T09:32:55","date_gmt":"2022-03-28T09:32:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/03\/28\/i-recently-started-dating-a-really-great-guybut-hes-in-an-open-marriage\/"},"modified":"2022-03-28T09:32:55","modified_gmt":"2022-03-28T09:32:55","slug":"i-recently-started-dating-a-really-great-guybut-hes-in-an-open-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/2022\/03\/28\/i-recently-started-dating-a-really-great-guybut-hes-in-an-open-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;I recently started dating a really great guy\u2026but he&#8217;s in an open marriage&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"td-post-featured-image\">\n<figure><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"696\" height=\"348\" class=\"entry-thumb\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ghanamma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/teasing-your-partner-playfully-can-make-lasting-relationship-Copy-696x348.jpg\"   alt=\"\" title=\"teasing-your-partner-playfully-can-make-lasting-relationship (Copy)\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-caption-text\">File photo<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p><strong>Dear Coleen<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a woman in my early 30s and recently started seeing a really great guy, who admitted on our first date that he was in an open\u00a0marriage. <\/p>\n<p>He said both he and his wife are free to see other people, but have certain boundaries, like not bringing dates home, and telling the other if things feel like they\u2019re getting serious with someone else.<\/p>\n<p>I was a bit shocked at first as I\u2019d never been in this situation before and normally I\u2019d bolt if a date admitted this, but there\u2019s something I really like about this guy.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/22191989129,1002554\/MGL\/mgl_ado_atunwa_300x250 --><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been online\u00a0dating\u00a0for a while now and haven\u2019t met anyone I\u2019ve clicked with like him.<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019s sweet, funny, handsome and very good company.<\/p>\n<p>The sex is also exciting, but I can\u2019t work out whether that\u2019s because I know that it can\u2019t really go anywhere because he\u2019s married.<\/p>\n<p>I have nothing and no one else in my life right now, so would it be the worst thing to carry on seeing him?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve mentioned it to a couple of friends who can\u2019t believe I\u2019m even thinking about it, but why not if I\u2019m single and haven\u2019t met anyone else?<\/p>\n<p>Am I fooling myself?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Coleen says<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Yes, 100% because while you\u2019re seeing him you won\u2019t give yourself the chance to meet that other person who can offer you so much more.<\/p>\n<p>Also, it\u2019s obvious from your letter that you really like this guy and if you get more involved, the risk is you\u2019ll fall in\u00a0love\u00a0and you will start to want proper commitment.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s great for him, enjoying his open marriage (I\u2019d like to think his wife has confirmed that), but what are you really getting out of this?<\/p>\n<p>I just don\u2019t know why you\u2019d want to open yourself up to heartbreak when there are plenty of lovely guys out there who are single.<\/p>\n<p>It might be going well right now, but it is not an equal \u00adarrangement \u2013 you can never go to his place or meet his family, or even plan a future.<\/p>\n<p>If you can cut off your emotions and just be in this relationship for the exciting sex, then great.<\/p>\n<p>However, I don\u2019t know many people who could do that, even if they think they could.<\/p>\n<p>Sorry, but this has \u00adheartbreak written all over it.<\/p>\n<p>            <!--  [embed]https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=videoseries[\/embed]<!--\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>--><\/p>\n<div class=\"youtube-embed\" data-video_id=\"eZq-lc2Nk5M\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Allege Cracks in NPP: GS hopeful calls for immediate redress to avert future defeat (27-3-22)\" width=\"696\" height=\"392\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/eZq-lc2Nk5M?feature=oembed&#038;enablejsapi=1\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>File photo Dear Coleen I\u2019m a woman in my early 30s and recently started seeing a really great guy, who admitted on our first date that he was in an open\u00a0marriage. 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