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There are certain questions that inevitably strike fear into the heart of anyone being asked them in the context of a marriage or romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

No matter how many\u00a0cute, sweet and romantic things you find to say\u00a0to your boyfriend or girlfriend on a regular basis, when you\u2019re hit with one of these humdingers out of the blue, knowing what to say and how to say say it can be absolutely mind-boggling.<\/p>\n

One such question is the inevitable, \u201cDoes this make me look fat?\u201d posed just as you\u2019re heading out the door to a big event.<\/p>\n

That one is relatively easy to navigate, of course. The answer is always, and forever, a resounding, \u201cNo! Of course, not. You look amazing.\u201d<\/p>\n

But when your boyfriend or girlfriend asks, \u201cWhy do you love me?\u201d, it can understandably reduce even the most self-assured among us into deer in the headlights as you watch the entire life of your relationship pass before your eyes.<\/p>\n

Paralyzed with fear, your mind becomes numbingly blank.<\/p>\n

Before you is someone you actually care about. You do love them. You can even see yourself making a life with them, or perhaps you\u2019ve already decided to. But right now, under this kind of pressure, you can\u2019t think of a single meaningful thing to say regarding exactly why you love them.<\/p>\n

Oh, no! Why haven\u2019t you prepared for this moment? It comes in every relationship. You should have known better. At least, that\u2019s what you tell yourself as your mind races, your heart pounds, and the silence grows deafening.<\/p>\n

There are so many reasons you love this person, it\u2019s just that, at the moment, you can\u2019t bring a single, solitary one to mind.<\/p>\n

They look at you with tears welling up in those puppy-dog eyes, beseeching you for an answer. Your silence starts to confirm their worst fear \u2014 that they are unlovable.<\/p>\n

At this point, almost any answer could potentially save the relationship.<\/p>\n

This situation can go one of two ways:<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  • A highly-involved dramatic performance complete with an award-worthy emotional meltdown \u2026 but let\u2019s not go there<\/li>\n
  • A display of tears, but of joy and comfort rather than of pain and sorrow, along with a meaningful deepening of the intimacy in your relationship \u2026 let\u2019s do that!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Ah, of course. But how?<\/p>\n

    First, take a deep breath and collect yourself.<\/p>\n

    Recognize the real reason the man or woman you love is asking you this specific question: \u201cWhy do you love me?\u201d<\/p>\n

    It\u2019s likely they are\u00a0feeling insecure about your relationship, and, even more likely, that they are feeling deeply insecure about themselves.<\/p>\n

    They may be finding it hard to love themselves, in general or in the moment, and they\u2019re looking to you \u2014 the person they trust, love and value above all others \u2014 for validation they are worthy of love and they are, indeed, lovable.<\/p>\n

    Look them in the eye and, if possible, hold them in one of those close hugs that tells a fellow human being they are not alone. That they can count on you. That you\u2019ve got their back.<\/p>\n

    Then, tell them all the wonderful things you know and feel are lovable about them.<\/p>\n

    To help keep you light on your toes in case you\u2019re caught off-guard, look to the list of romantic things you can say in response below.<\/p>\n

    Here are 12 sweet things to say to your boyfriend or girlfriend when they ask, \u201cWhy do you love me?\u201d<\/p>\n

    1. \u201cI love you because you are you. You\u2019re not like anyone else, and you are brave and strong and willing to be you. That inspires me.\u201d<\/p>\n

    2. \u201cYou are like sunshine itself, and I feel better when I\u2019m with you.\u201d<\/p>\n

    3. \u201cI love how I feel when I\u2019m with you.\u201d<\/p>\n

    4. \u201cYou accept me for me. I don\u2019t have to hide. You let me be myself, and I thank you for that. It\u2019s amazing to be loved by you.\u201d<\/p>\n

    5. \u201cYou make me feel more alive than anyone ever has.\u201d<\/p>\n

    6. \u201cYou make me want to be a better person.\u201d<\/p>\n

    7. \u201cYou teach me how to be a better partner. You encourage me, support me and let me know how I can best support you.\u201d<\/p>\n

    8. \u201cYou complete me. Before I met you, I never felt whole. With you in my life, I am.\u201d<\/p>\n

    9. \u201cI love you for your passion for life. It\u2019s contagious.\u201d<\/p>\n

    10. \u201cYou make me feel strong.\u201d<\/p>\n

    11. \u201cI love your heart. The world is better for having you in it. And I\u2019m lucky I get to call you my love.\u201d<\/p>\n

    12. \u201cYou and me, we\u2019re just good together.\u201d<\/p>\n

    Now you know why they asked the question, that it\u2019s less about why you love them and more about them needing to\u00a0receive validation that they are lovable, and how to reply in a way that meets that need.<\/p>\n

    With these 12 sweet phrases, you can strengthen your relationship and be a true source of support for the person you really, truly do love for many, many good reasons.<\/p>\n

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