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Sex Drive<\/strong>: The wildly held belief is that as soon as a man clamps eyes on a woman, he has nothing but sex on the brain, and when the atmosphere is conducive, he\u2019s rearing to go and is guaranteed to ring your bell all of the time! \u00a0Isn\u2019t that a tall order for the average man?\u00a0 According to Dr. Stanley Althof, an American professor of psychology, the average hot-blooded woman would have had boyfriends who wanted sex less often than she did.<\/p>\nFatherhood<\/figcaption><\/figure>\nOne of the reasons for this may be that as completely liberated chicks, women today think nothing of vocalizing their sexual needs, that alone has made any desire disparities more conspicuous than they\u2019ve been in generations past. \u201cThe truth is\u201d, said the professor, \u201cSome men as young as in their early 20s and 30s just don\u2019t want sex that frequently, because they never had much desire to begin with\u201d.\u00a0 And we\u2019re not talking about a temporary dip in the sex drive. That happens a lot, for all kinds of reasons. One of these is stress: If your man is swamped at work, getting it on is going to be the last thing on his mind.\u00a0 Just like women, men need to mentally be in the game in order to play ball.<\/p>\n
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Fatigue is another factor. When a man is tired, his hormone levels drop and he can\u2019t mentally or physically get aroused. Plus, he may be concerned that his lack of energy will affect his performance \u2013 and therefore nix nooky.\u00a0 Also, prescription medications could be a culprit.\u00a0 Pills for everything from ulcers to high blood pressure can significantly inhibit a man\u2019s sex drive as well as his ability to get an erection.\u00a0 When a man is depressed and is feeling down, his testosterone\u2019s low too \u2013 and decreased sex drive is a common side effect of many anti-depressants, making it a little bit of a lose-lose lust situation.\u00a0 Alcoholism and drug abuse could also be culprits.\u00a0 Sure a few drinks can make a guy horny as well. But regular over-indulging in booze or, drugs damages not only a man\u2019s body but his lust level as well.<\/p>\n
When your man\u2019s sex drive is low, said Althof, the obvious assumption would be that he\u2019s gay, cheating, or not attracted to you.\u00a0 Be rest assured that there is nothing wrong with him, just in his make up.\u00a0 \u201cAlthough there\u2019s no way to really measure a normal sex drive, most experts agree that if a guy feels the urge to get it on with a partner or masturbate at least once a week, his erotic appetite falls within the healthy range.\u00a0 Still, that\u2019s no consolation if you want sex more often than that. Althof then dissects your man\u2019s passion problems and gives some helpful advice.<\/p>\n
READ ALSO: Man gets 14 years jail term for raping daughter<\/span><\/h3>\nIt\u2019s physical: Before resigning yourself to a sex life in which your vibrator figures more prominently than you\u2019d probably like, you should first try to pinpoint what\u2019s causing your man\u2019s erotic apathy. If he only wants to ring your bell once every two weeks or less, he\u2019s most likely suffering from a low libido, stemming from a physiological or psychological issue.\u00a0 To rule out physical cause, encourage him to have his testosterone levels tested. If his levels fall below the normal range, that could explain his lack of desire. (This condition affects less than five per cent of men under 40). Should that be the cause, it\u2019s relatively easy to fix. There are a variety of way to treat a testosterone deficiency, most commonly with a prescription gel.\u00a0 When applied, daily, it boosts a man\u2019s hormone levels for as long as it\u2019s in his system, which is roughly 24 hours.<\/p>\n
When it\u2019s mental: Unfortunately, though, a miracle gel can\u2019t cure every man\u2019s sucky sex drive. For most men who rarely want sex, says Althof, psychological issues are to blame. Majority of men with low libidos weren\u2019t born that way. Instead, negative past experiences made them so inhibited, so ashamed, or anxious about sex, they either never develop a healthy interest in it or suppressed their natural inclinations to the point that it\u2019s not appealing to them. One possible culprit is his upbringing.\u00a0 If a man was raised to believe that sex is dirty, he may feel guilty having in the first place. It\u2019s not easy to loosen up and enjoy yourself if it\u2019s been ingrained in your head since childhood that sex is sinful.<\/p>\n
Performance anxiety:\u00a0 Another source of erotic angst is performance anxiety.\u00a0 If a man\u2019s last girlfriend was critical of his package or made him feel like he had no skills in the sack, he\u2019s not going to be so eager to have it again.\u00a0 A negative sexual experience can be so traumatizing for a man, he\u2019ll carry those insecurities into the next relationship.\u00a0 A man like that would rather avoid sex altogether than deal with the humiliation of losing his erec5tion or being betrayed by his partner.<\/p>\n
The silver lining, said Althof, is that since performance anxiety usually manifests itself when a man is an adult, it\u2019s much easier to resolve than deep-seated childhood hang-ups he\u2019s carried around for years.\u00a0 The best strategy here is to gently suggest therapy. Explain that you\u2019re hoping that if he addresses some of his concerns, he\u2019ll boost his sex drive. Should your man agree to seek help, be patient: It could take anywhere from three months to a year for him to make progress on certain psychological issues. If he balks at either discussing his low libido or doing something about it, back off \u2013 then honestly ask yourself whether an unsatisfying sex life is something you\u2019re willing to live with (and if so, for how long?)<\/p>\n
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