(Opens in a new browser tab)<\/span><\/p>\nThe Saturday I got to this new location, there was this big society wedding and I was one of the crew that assembled the plasma television sets used to relay the event to the huge audience. I had never seen so much food and booze in my life! After installation, a couple of us settled on one of the tables as soon as the boss left. Mingling with the guests with well-chilled champagne glass in my hand, I found myself socialising with a couple of giggly ladies who were obviously tipsy.<\/p>\n
\u201cAs the evening wore on, I latched on to this lovely girl who obviously found me attractive. As we chatted, the booze must have played with imagination as I started giving this girl glowing accounts of my status. I lied about a lot of things because I thought it was going to be an out-of-station fling. I\u2019d never given a thought to seeing her again, so I told her I ran the company that installed the entire electronics gadget. I pretended I drove a fancy car when I don\u2019t even own one. I also gave the impression I lived in a big flat when all I have are two rooms in a sprawling building. My lies seemed harmless at the time and the two weeks I spent with her was fun.<\/p>\n
\u201cWe continued phoning and texting with me lying I was too busy to travel down, the more we chatted on the phone the more I realised I really liked her. Then, she told me the \u2018exciting\u2019 news she would soon be in Lagos for another friend\u2019s weeding. It was then I wished I\u2019d let on I was bragging, but I was worried that if I did, she\u2019d go off me. But once she gets here, she\u2019ll realise none of what I\u2019ve told her is true.<\/p>\n
She\u2019ll see the real me and realize I\u2019m not rich or a big shot and won\u2019t be interested. I\u2019m just hoping that if I entertained her lavishly, she would overlook all my whoppers!\u201d<\/p>\n
Boye won\u2019t be the first guy to beef up his personality, especially when out of station and he wouldn\u2019t be the first to have to admit he may have exaggerated things a little or a lot. He was in a posh setting and had to justify his being there by presenting himself as a glossed-up version of himself or who he wished he was. The irony of it all is that this girl too could have painted a rosier picture of her life. Unfortunately, she\u2019ll be the one visiting and Boye would be the one who\u2019s going to be found out first!<\/p>\n
A few decades back, when travelling abroad was like winning the lottery, many hopeful men, relying on photograph, only when seeking future brides were almost shocked out of their skin at the flesh version of their intended when they eventually arrived; whilst the arranged brides wondered how on earth they were going to relate to their husbands who\u2019d bought such wives lock stock end barrel. The best way of handling being found out telling a whopper is to come clean either on the phone, by e-mail or a letter confessing what you did and why (you wanted to impress them and were worried they wouldn\u2019t like you as you are). Tell them you\u2019ve taken to them big time and this is why you haven\u2019t come clean before now. You\u2019re scared the \u201creal\u201d you wouldn\u2019t be quite a catch.<\/p>\n
You then list all the things you can offer in future: Honestly, affection, love, security and someone who\u2019s willing to work hard to earn back the trust you have lost by lying. I told Boye his girl might be shocked and suspicious at first, but if her feelings are genuine, she won\u2019t care less if he\u2019s not rolling in that much dough (and if she does, good riddance!).<\/p>\n
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